I did say that I wanted to make these interview posts a regular thing and with that in mind im very happy to be able to post my third interview blog post with Miss Jessica Wood. I was lucky enough to meet Miss Jessica Wood not too long ago when filming at The English Mansion and very quickly found out just what a kind and friendly person she is (mixed in with that sadistic streak that we love of course). I have to say, first thing that stuck me when meeting her was her laugh, and im sure if you have met her before you will know what I mean! The second thing that stuck me when meeting Miss Jessica Wood were her eyes, she has the most wonderful blue eyes which truly are stunning, brings out all sorts of subby feelings in me :)
Also I have to say being able to watch her do a face sitting scene is something im not going to forget for a long long time, she looked incredible and really did open my eyes to a new fetish I’m only just starting to explore.
There I go getting distracted and letting my mind wonder again….. Anyway, back to this post!
I really enjoyed doing this interview and really appreciated the advice and time I received from Jessica throughout. I hope its not too long before im able to meet again.
That just leaves me to say a great big thank you to Miss Jessica Wood for doing this with me and as always, hope you enjoy reading this as much as I enjoyed doing it.
- How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?
I was doing glamour and fetish modelling and this website called Strict Ladies [specialising in corporal punishment] contacted me to do a shoot for them. I had done loads of different types of shoots prior to that, like bondage, latex fetish, WAM, etc, so I thought it sounded interesting and I’d give it a go. So I went up there and it was brilliant. They thought I was a natural at it, I had really good aim and that I had a presence that came across well. That was just spanking people so I started doing a few shoots for them. At the same time Nikki Whiplash had started some websites of her own, specialising in Femdom wrestling, face sitting and ball busting and she asked me if I wanted to work for her, so again I thought I’d give it a go, and again, I loved it all. I then started going to clubs like TG, Club Rub and Pedestal, as the whole scene interested me as well. The best event I’ve been to was Wastelands in Amsterdam, that was something else!
So how long were you doing the website filming before the first session?
I did shoots for people for a couple of years and was doing double sessions with Nikki of face sitting and ball busting, but then someone asked me if I would do a solo CP session for them and it all snowballed from there. So about 2 years from first filming to a solo session.
You have known Nikki for a long time now haven’t you, from before the kink?
I’ve known Nikki since 1999. We did lots of glamour modelling together and then I went travelling to Australia for a year and when I came back Nikki had got into the wrestling, face sitting and ball busting and as mentioned above, so I continued to work with her. We have also done loads of sessions and videos together and gone out lots socially too. She is awesome!
- So did you ever think you would be a Pro Domme?
I think when I first started doing filming for the websites, I was just happy to be doing the shoots and I didn’t really think about doing it anymore than that. Then the more I did it, the more confident I got with doing things and learning about how everything works. I also realised how much people loved being on the receiving end as well and how much I loved doing it. When that person asked me to do the solo session I thought I’d give it a go and like I said it snowballed from there. So it was a build up over time rather than an instant ‘this is what I’m going to do’.
What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?
Well I’m really naturally dominant and bossy by nature and love telling people what to do so that is a brilliant part of it! I also love wearing all my outfits and that definitely comes into it, I especially love all my corsets, silk blouses and pencil skirts and heels. Getting to wear them all the time is great. I also really love caning, well I wouldn’t do anything I don’t like but caning I really do love. I like getting the marks all in a straight line, I have got a bit of a thing about that!
- What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?
I haven’t really had any really hideous ones. When I was 16 I worked in a Burger King but I really enjoyed it at the time, lots of free food and people my own age so I was quite happy about that back then. Obviously I wouldn’t want to do it now! Other jobs I’ve done have been office type jobs, some have been great but nothing super amazing. So this job is definitely the best and also the one I have done the longest in my life.
That’s a good thing to be able to say, doubt everyone could say the same.
Yes indeed! This is the best, apart from all the annoying timewasters.
Is that almost just part and parcel of the job?
Yes, I get so many people emailing me that don’t use correct English, they don’t know what they want and are not even in the UK. I just say to get in touch when you’re in the UK and able to see me. Luckily because I ask for a deposit I don’t get too many people not showing up. Prior to requesting a deposit, I initially had more no shows. That didn’t last long before I thought right this needs to change and I started the deposit payment. However, you even get some people that won’t send a deposit for whatever reason so they just don’t get to see me, I have heard it all before.
Do you think you get better at spotting the time wasters earlier?
Oh definitely. Now I’m really quite vicious with them! If you’re serious you’ll write a proper email. The ones I suspect don’t live in the UK I will ask when they are coming to the UK and don’t bother answering any of their questions. I’m now 99.9% of the time right, with time comes experience.
- How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?
Via my website, I have a contact form with various details to fill in with drop down boxes to make it as easy as possible. I just want to know clearly what people want in a session and if I would be up for it or not. If people have filled in everything correctly then I will get back to them, but if people only fill in half the form and don’t make an effort and are very vague then I won’t bother replying. I only want to see people with some intelligence that are capable of putting together an email at the very least.
Just takes a little bit of effort from the start
Exactly, and to know what you want basically, not just saying ‘I want to be punished Mistress’. So I say, I’m going to start off with 10 hard kicks to the balls?! Some people just don’t have a clue. I’m just trying to get them to think what they want really, because if you don’t know what you want then how are you going to have a good session? If you turn up just “wanting to be dominated” it could go horribly wrong…. haha.
Do you get the subs that say I have no limits and you can do anything you want with me?
Yeah you get those but 9 times out of 10 they can hardly take anything. I have had so many people say they want a hard caning or hard ball busting and you just do one light kick or paddle and they are shouting, I think to myself, “Seriously? You said you were into hard stuff?” It just makes me laugh because I think who have they seen before to think that they are into hard CP. I have been told before that I do hit very hard though.
As a side note, you have to become very confident with an implement before you can hit very hard, caning was the one that took the longest to master because you really can’t go hard with that until you’re accurate, so over time and from doing lots of sessions it allows you to be harder and harder. Now I love that as mentioned before.
- What can a client expect from their first visit to see you?
I usually have a sit down with them for 10 minutes or so, unless they want to go straight into session that is. Everything would have already been discussed by email because I like to have everything written down so it’s clear and it’s like a contract between people. Some people want to speak to me on the phone prior to a session but I never agree to it because I don’t want someone to turn round and say that I said something on the phone that I didn’t. With email, it’s always recorded so we both know what we are doing in session and what has been agreed. My little chat before is generally to help people to calms their nerves. I have had people who are visibly shaking before! So I talk to them to calm them down and maybe talk about something random, non fetishy. I would then ask if there was anything else they hadn’t mentioned or that they want to mention or any worries or questions and then we go into session. The sessions itself is always what somebody wants, I never surprise people or do something out of their limits. I am a really good judge of character with people’s limits so I can tell how far to push people and whether they can take anything else or not. This has also come about from my years of experience. If someone is doing multiple punishments then I will switch from one thing to another to give that area a bit of a break, e.g. switch from ball busting to some CP then on to something else. I like things to be nicely evened out. Plus you have to make people last as well!
Some people email me with really outlandish expectations for a first visit, like when they have never had a session before and they want a 2hr hard corporal punishment session. I will say to these people you only need to do an hour to start with as you don’t even know if you like it. I have cut down loads of sessions before. Most people I see for the first time I say let’s just do an hour and see if we get on and test limits etc. I don’t want someone to be in session for 3 hours if they are hating every minute, so I think it’s best to have an hour as a taster, see what you think and then come back and build on that experience. People may find it bizarre I want to shorten their initial sessions, but it’s not about the money to me; I want people to have the best experience they can have.
I’m also quite picky with the people that I see and I will never be one of those Dommes that just does whatever she likes. I always make sure people get what they want. If they’re happy then I’m happy, it’s a customer relationship business after all in some bizarre fashion… haha!
- Other that real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do anything other than real time?
Not usually and that’s just because I’m so busy but I have been considering doing webcam domination and phone domination. Generally though I prefer having people with me in the room, I think there is more point to it then, but appreciate people may not always be able to see me in person or are very new to the scene, so this is why I have been considering the webcam/phone options. Watch this space!
- Are you looking for a personal sub?
No Pro-Domme ever is really I think.
I’m too busy to have someone hanging around me all the time. It’s like having a pet dog only more annoying! If I was a millionaire and had nothing to do with my time then it might be quite useful then.
But right now the pet dog sounds more appealing?
Yes exactly, they would just go sit in the corner and behave. I have heard of bad experiences from other Dommes how personal slaves are very time consuming and get obsessive. Two things I don’t want.
Plus the dog would probably look cuter
- I know you have a few different websites, how many do you have?
Yes I have a few, I have my original site, Miss Jessica Wood and then my Facesitting Mistress site also. Furthermore, I have my two clip4sale sites. Plus I use Twitter and Pinterest and Twitter social media sites.
Do you use Facebook at all?
No they kicked me off four times, three times with a normal profile and one time with just a fan page, so I said screw them and haven’t bothered since. They are very prudish, there wasn’t even anything bad on my profiles. No naked punished men, just me!
- Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?
That’s the cane. I used to always like the more thin whippy canes but now my favourite ones are about 10mm ones. The thin ones make peoples bottoms cut too quickly when you do harder strokes (in my hands anyway!), whereas the thicker ones you can hit harder but not necessarily get any cuts for a little while. It’s also got to be dragon smoked as well, straight handle and lamb skin grip. Canes are also good for balls as well as bottoms don’t you know!
- What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?
I really love corsets, I have quite a nice collection. I wear them out clubbing lots. I really like my 1950s style underwear with corsets as well. Then I also really like silk blouses. I think they just look and feel so amazing on. They also suit the look that I go for, strict and classy.
- What is your favourite type of play during a session, or favourite activities?
I really like it when people want to do role-play, I find it a bit more fun as long as the people are good at it. If they are silent then it can be a bit of a mission and I end up talking to myself most of the time which isn’t the best. It’s quite fun when people are a bit cheeky as they know they’re going to be in for it then! It can then feel more like a real life scenario rather than just punishing people without the story line behind it.
What would be your favourite type of role-play?
Headmistress or office boss, they are my two favourites.
- What are the best qualities you look for in a sub?
They should have good time keeping, be polite, respectful, intelligent and have a good standard of personal hygiene. If you have all of them then you’re doing well.
- If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?
In reference to emails, a lot of people will bombard me with emails if I don’t reply straight away and that really irritates me because I will reply when I can. I don’t need another 3 or 4 emails added on top of your original email because I haven’t got back to you in 10 seconds. That puts me off wanting to see people if they do that with me.
So basically have a bit of patience?
Definitely that’s the word for it.
- What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?
Well the email thing definitely!
Arriving early, I really hate that. Usually on a session day I have a lot of people to see and the time in between I have to spend changing into the next outfit, seeing what the next session will be and getting my room ready for it and then I also want a bit of a rest. Just come at the time we arranged. Luckily I have an intercom so I tell anyone that is early to go away and come back on time.
If a sub is not being very reactive. If you don’t make reactions and you’re too quiet then I can’t judge if what I’m doing is good for you or not. If you stay silent then it doesn’t give any indication of if it could be harder or softer and especially if they are someone new, I would like to hear that. It also makes it hard to tell if they are even enjoying themselves.
- How do you prepare for a session or a scene to get into Domme headspace? Do you have to?
I write up all my sessions prior to the day and have them all printed out. When I am getting ready for the session, I would read them through and think of any extra bits and pieces and plan out what I’m going to do, if I need to plan anything. If it’s any kind of role play, I can just go into that character straight away as it’s so natural to me now. I used to have to think about it but I have been doing it for so long now so it’s become second nature.
- I recently got to see you filming a face sitting scene for English Mansion and I have to say I think you have got me hooked! What is it about face sitting in-particular that you enjoy?
I think my bottom was made for it, I didn’t know it was going to come in so useful! I really enjoy using men as my comfortable seat and it can be quite relaxing. I think I have become quite acrobatic in the different positions I use, so it’s also like a little work out in itself which is fun. A lot of the time you’re not fully sitting on someone you see, because a lot of people can’t actually take that. Then generally knowing your bottom is being appreciated is no bad thing!
Is it a power thing as well with the controlling of the breath?
I think my bottom really doesn’t let you breathe so it’s a very good power exchange, definitely. Some girls have smaller bottoms and people can often steal a quick breath but you can’t with me. Also, some people try and sneak a breath by wriggling free, but I have got ways of trapping people between my ankles so they can’t move their heads and stuff like that! If you’re going to do it, you should do it properly. I have had so many people that can’t do it at all. Some want to just be pinned down but not actually sat on but that isn’t face sitting.
They don’t know what their missing!
I know! It’s a bit frustrating when you have someone like that, I just want to sit on somebody properly. Not for them to hold their breath for only 10 seconds. Some people are just ridiculous. You’re not going to pass out after 10 seconds! It really would take a very long time to be actually suffocated.
You want to find some swimmers than like face sitting, they can hold there breathe for ages.
Exactly, I like nice comfortable seats that I don’t have to move off for a long time. One of my favourite positions is sitting back and laying down across their body but they need to be able to stay under me for a while otherwise I’m up and down like a yo-yo!
- Who would you most like to work with that you haven’t had the opportunity to do so yet, or who would you love to work with again?
Well Miss Sarah Jessica from Manchester/Scotland is someone I would like to work with. We have chatted on Twitter. I do double Domme shoots for my own member’s website so would quite like to work with her. I have also chatted a bit to Lady Bellatrix but haven’t got round to working with her yet.
In terms of people I have worked with before and would like to again it will always be Nikki Whiplash.
In terms of websites, I love working for The English Mansion, Northern Spanking and Sado Ladies.
- Do you like to use of music in your sessions?
Generally no. The rules to that exception are if I’m travelling and in a hotel or sometimes in face sitting or wrestling sessions where there is no role-play. I like a bit of chill out dance music if so, but if the session is a CP one, then generally never.
You like the hear the thud
- Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?
I just come up with them really, things just come to me as I have a vivid imagination! I sometimes like doing games in sessions with cards and things and have invented lots of different games over the years. Having done sessions for years helps as well, it’s important to keep sessions and videos varied. It might start with some outfit ideas or a place of punishment like a school and then it doesn’t take me long to fill the rest in.
- What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?
Actually I would say Twitter, I really like the way people can interact on Twitter. In places like Fetlife it’s all individual conversations whereas on Twitter multiple people can join in and have a chit chat or make comments etc.
Do you still use Fetlife?
Yes I was on it the other day actually for the first time in ages, but I get a lot of messages from people saying random things and feel there is a lot of time wasting going on. Or I get comments that someone likes a picture but there isn’t the same interaction.
- If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?
The male sub would be Michael Hall from Dexter, that would be amazing!
Female would be Danni Minogue, I have always liked her and find her very pretty.
- What are some of you favourite things to do away from BDSM?
Travelling would be the number one thing. I have been to 50 countries so far! Soon to be 51 with Sri Lanka in October. It is one of my missions in life to see as much of the planet that I can, as you only live once of course. I also like going to the gym to do spinning, weights and yoga. I love looking after and hugging my three ragdoll cats. I also like to cycle, as I don’t drive (well I haven’t for about 8 years now) and I love fine dining restaurants and eating out in general, especially Japanese. Oh and the cinema when something good is on. Saw the Inbetweeners 2 last, that was very funny.
Do you enjoy cooking as well?
No, just the eating part! I like food I can leave to cook and come back to and it’s done! I’m too busy to do “proper” cooking.