Club Sanctum mark two

Last Saturday I took a long overdue trip back to London for a kink night out and a chance to go out dressed up as it had been way too long.

I was heading to Club Sanctum in London ( I still don’t have a clue what part of London it is in thinking about, it but im saw people can find that out). Sanctum is a relatively small club night run by Miss Kitty Bliss and this was my second time i had been after going last November.

My day started early in the afternoon as I was meeting Kitty as her place before heading to the club, I also was looking forward to meeting Miss Kitty Bliss’s sub Sarah Jane for the first time so was glad to hear she would be coming over before the club. I have spoken to Sarah Jane quite abit online in the last few weeks/months so it was great to actually meet in person and to chat face to face. I have to say Sarah Jane was just as nice in person and a lot of fun to hang out with, I really enjoying being able to chat to her and hopefully will be able to see her again soon. (plus one of the first things she said to me was ‘would you like a glass of wine’, cant go wrong from there!)

So we set off to the club so that we arrived before anyone else got there and I got changed into my Maroon coloured dress (still a favourite of mine), black heels (that only lasted about 40 mins on my feet) and some black lingerie and nude stockings. I did some of my make up and Miss Kitty Bliss finished it off just as people started to arrive. Which did mean I could take credit for the eye make up as no one was any the wiser mwhahaha.

It was also Sarah Jane’s birthday that night and im sure if you were there  she might have mentioned it once or twice, or about 10 times! but until 12 o’clock she was the hostess on the door, greeting people as they arrive and showing them round, At 12 her work finished and she got cake and gifts and lots of hugs, I actually missed most of that as I was a little tied up at the time ( i will get to that later) but obviously worried i was missing out on cake, Miss Kitty Bliss did come over and pretty much force feed me a slice, how kind of her! :P

To start with i didn’t really know many people there but said hello to a few and chatted for a bit and wondered round to rooms that I didn’t see the first time i went,  The club started to fill out and It definitely ended up busier than when I was there before. One of my highlights of the night was when i was walking through the club about to head to the bar when I heard the ‘soothing’ tones of an northern accent I recognised and had to go say hello, Ely had arrived, and it was great to see her after a couple of months where quite a few things have changed between us. We had a great big hug and I have to say seeing her and being able to talk afew things over and just to be able to give her a hug, that made the whole trip to London worthwhile, turns out I really miss that girl when i don’t see her!!

Another big highlight of the night involved lots of rope. In the main room there is a space in the middle that can be used for play, from my experience the play doesn’t really start till relatively late and last Saturday i ended up being one of the first to play. I’m definitely not complaining about that though because this kind of appeals to my still ever growing exhibitionist side. I was sitting down chatting to someone when Miss Kitty Bliss came over and introduced me to Annie, she told me Annie was looking for someone to tie up and though I might be the ideal person, at this point my eye lit up and I of course said I would be interested.

Me and Annie chatted for a little about interests, experiences and just generally a little bit about each other until we both agreed it would be fun to play with some rope. It turned out Annie had done this before! Her rope work felt really good, looked really good and best of all, it did both of those things while feeling very secure and very comfortable. Annie started by tying my arms behind my back then moving on to my shoulders, chest and upper arms. i was then laid down on my stomach and my legs were tied together and hog tied, the hogtie is one of my favourite positions and I was loving it at this stage. I had told Annie before that I love a good spanking while being tied and she had said she likes to give abit of pain so when she had finished with the rope the spanking began. It Started off with hands before Ely throw over some slightly harder hitty things and that is when I could tell Annie started to really enjoy it. She did keep telling me, slightly surprised and possibly slightly annoyed, that I wouldn’t stop smiling, In my defence, that wasn’t smiling because it didn’t hurt, trust me it did, and i had the bruises for days afterwards to prove that. I kept smiling because i was tied up in rope and being spanked by a hot switch girl.

of course I was smiling!

After a while Annie started to untied me as it had been the best part of an hour and didn’t want to keep me in the rope too long and i reluctantly agreed to her common sense! A huge thanks to Annie (if you ever read this) it was a lot of fun, you can tied me up again anytime you like!

Hog Tied and Spanked

The remainder of the night i was more of a voyeur watching others play, rope seemed to be the theme of most of the night and I really enjoyed watching Annie tie another girl up as well as another couple playing with some rope where the guy tied up the girl (sorry I don’t know names so guy and girl will have to do) both ties looked a lot of fun, both ties looked really hot and both ties i immediately wanted to try myself!

The rest of the night wasn’t all about about rope though and once Sarah Jane was free of her work duties I was great to be able to chat a little more with her, I also got to spend more time with Ely which i of course love to do, and chatted to afew others including sissy Maria and Lee. The night didn’t quite end as planned but I still had a good night and I look forward to heading back to London soon for another kinky night out.

I should end this blog by saying a huge thank you to Lee for giving my a couch to crash on that night and for sissy maria for giving me a lift the morning after, so thanks to you both, very much appreciated!

JD x x

English Mansion – Third times a charm

As with most cases best to start at the beginning, so that is exactly what i will do here.

A few weeks ago I received an email from Mistress Sidonia asking if I would like to do some filming for The English Mansion again, with a Domme who is very into her CP called Miss Jessica Wood. I of course immediately said yes, in fact I might have replied with a yes before I had even read the whole message!

I knew of Miss Jessica Wood through twitter so being able to meet her and to film with her only made it more exciting. I was really looking forward to being able to do this, but then I had to wait and wait and wait (only actually about 5 weeks, but im massively impatient!)

Then two days before i was due to do the filming I had abit of nightmare and injured my leg, I originally thought this might stop me from being able to film but luckily I was told it wouldn’t be an issue so a couple of weeks ago I headed over to the English Mansion to film my third scene with them.

I still get nervous doing anything like this but now its much more of a nice level of nerves that just adds to the excitement and it wasn’t till i arrived at the door that it kicked in this time. In fact thinking about it, its more a mixture of nerves combined with worrying slightly if i will look OK (yes, I still think that most times i dress, so when its on camera its about 100 times worse). I arrived to be greeted by Mistress Sidonia and we heading inside where I was greeted with a fantastic surprise, Lady Nina Birch was inside. We said our hellos and were chatting for abit before it dawned on my maybe i was filming with Miss Jessica Wood and Lady Nina Birch. The idea alone was very exciting but i like to think i played it cool haha. After chatting for a little while Mistress Sidonia started getting herself ready for filming and i would be lying if i didn’t start to hope I would be filming with all three! Alas that wasn’t to be, maybe one day. A sub can dream!

Lady Nina Birch then disappeared to get herself ready and Mistress Sidonia started to do my make up. I have said before but i will say it again, I do enjoy this part :). Lady Nina Birch returned while Mistress Sidonia was still doing my make up (takes a loooong time for me to look half presentable but ssshhh i don’t want to ruin that illusion) While I was having eye shadow applied (eyes closed) I heard Miss Jessica Wood arrive, well more specially I heard her laugh :P I had to keep my eyes closed while things dried or while another colour was applied but I really wanted to open them to say hello to Miss Jessica Wood as this was the first time we had met, plus I definitely couldn’t wait to see what Nina Birch And Jessica Wood where wearing for the filming.

I didn’t have to wait long as Mistress Sidonia soon had me looking as feminine as possible and I have to say i thought Nina Birch and Jessica Wood looked stunning, all i could think of at the time was lucky lucky me!

As everyone else was already good to go so to speak, Mistress Sidonia and I went though some of my clothes quickly and picked a dress for me to wear. The story behind the scene was me arriving in this chosen dress rather than a maids uniform, and then being punished for it. This actually worked quite well because its one of my favourite dresses at the moment so any reluctancy to remove it during the film isn’t me pretending, I actually wanted to keep it on!

We then did the filming which included OTK spanking, paddles, foot worship, caning, bondage, and generally being told off by both Nina and Jessica. Near the start of the scene I was on my knees in front of Nina and she is telling me off for wearing the wrong dress, while she was doing this I really generally felt a little scared, it honestly felt like I had done something wrong for real! I didn’t expect that to happen during filming and this was a definite first for me. Maybe it was partly because she was saying how my favourite dress wasn’t good enough, I bloody love that dress lol! I’m not going to go through exactly what happened in the scene but a moment that sticks in my head the most was a moment in between the filming. My legs were in the air, balls feeling very exposed, and Miss Jessica Wood had a cane in her hands talking about the colour balls go when caned. Sidonia afterwards checked everything was ok with my because apparently I had a terrified look on my face. Safe to say I was a little nervous at that moment in time yes, understandably so I think!! I’m glad to say no balls were harmed during the making of the film, even if i was the only one in the room that was happy about that fact :)

Something that I still think I am not very good at or really that natural at in fact, is the talky bits (I believe that is the technical term) during the filming, I was told during this film to apologise to both Nina and Jessica and lets just say there is room for improvement on my side there! lots more regular filming practice needed maybe….that or lots more use of gags! Either way win win.

I think this was one of the first times I have ever done anything with two Dommes together, and being the slightly greedy sub that I am, I hope i can do this a lot more in the future! It was so much fun to be able to film with both ladies and i enjoyed all of it, i really didn’t want to stop at the end. I especially didn’t want it to end because i ended up tied up with a spreader bar, sat on the sofa, wearing a ball gag. Ever since I started discovering kink, bondage has been, and properly always will be one of my favourite things so I was in a happy place at the end of this scene.

This was the only scene I was doing that day but another sub had arrived to do a few more and I was able to stick around and watch. The second scene of the day was a sort of domestic ‘husband’/humilation/cbt ish type scene (very descriptive of me i know) which was a lot of fun to watch. But It was the third scene of the day that stuck with me much more and that was a face sitting/smothering scene that Miss Jessica Wood did outside with the other sub. I had never seen any facesitting in person before and I knew it was a specialty of Miss Jessica Woods so I was very keen to watch, and wow I loved it. It looked fantastic and appealed massively to my growing interest in breath play. Having a stunning Domme women do that me, where do i sign to do that!

I think that scene might have left a lasting impression on me!

So that was another amazing day at English Mansion and again everyone made me feel so welcome, and I enjoyed every minute. A huge thank you to the English Mansion camera man (who shall remain nameless) Miss Jessica Wood, Lady Nina Birch, Dominant Dolly (thank you as well for saving me from the possibility of wearing all those horrible frills as well :) ) and ofcourse Mistress Sidonia. It was an absolute pleasure and thanks for having be back.

JD x x

Interview with Nikki Whiplash Part II

The second and final part of my interview with Nikki Whiplash, in case you missed part I then you can find it here. Enjoy :)

 

  •  Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?

It depends on what I’m doing I suppose, I love violet wands which is why I have got loads of them. They are wicked, so pretty and I love the smell, and you can do it in a completely dark room or electrify your finger to torture somebody with.

And you said you love canes? I used to be terrified of the cane.

That’s because they are terrifying things. It’s got to be a good cane though, not just any old cane. Canes are good! Also me and Chloe always joke we would be nothing without those wand massagers, they are just so much fun.

  •   What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?

Oh I’m a leather person, I’m allergic to latex, I still wear it but sometimes it will mess up my skin. I wish I could wear more latex as it’s gorgeous.

A moment’s silence for that.

I know, I know.

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  • What is your favourite type of play during a session, or favourite activities?

It’s so hard, because it changes and is so subjective.

Depending on who you are with, how you feel etc?

Yes, but I do love ball busting.

I had wrestling and ball busting written down here already.

Ah, again because I’m Mrs. allergy I have to wrestle in trousers now which kind of kills some of the fun of it, you can wrestle better without them. I’m allergic to people, but luckily if you are exposed to something all the time you can become less allergic to it. So if I kept wrestling the same person over and over, I would stop being allergic to them. It’s very strange, with men in particular I just come out in what looks like nettle rash. So wrestling is off my favourites list, but ball busting is a favourite.

I also do really like really hard CP and I like mind fuckery.

(There was a definite slight evil laugh here).

I love doing really hard CP but only to someone that wants that done. I wouldn’t just go right Jess I’m strapping you down now and smashing your bum with this cane even though you don’t want it. That would do nothing for me, so I guess I’m not a true sadist. I only want to be a sadist to someone that wants to be a masochist.

It’s whatever is fun with an individual at the time, but definitely ball busting, definitely caning and teasing people and messing with their heads.

Are you into the humiliation side of things as well?

I am but it depends what form it takes. I think humiliation is quite an individual thing. Whereas if you know you’re into CP, I know how to use a cane, and I know I do a good job of it. With humiliation it takes so many different forms, so what is really humiliating for one person won’t be for another. I do like CFNM stuff when people are really embarrassed about being naked in front of me, that is brilliant fun.. There are certain forms of humiliation where I think if I don’t understand exactly what’s going to be humiliating I find it a bit tricky. I do like laughing at small cocks. It’s really disappointing when they are not incredibly small, though, then I just have to pretend they’re tiny. Maybe there needs to be a new genre: disappointingly-slightly-below-average penis humiliation?

I’m often amazed how popular that actually is with guys.

Yeah, I did a really fun session last week with that, it was a roleplay where I was a solicitor for his wife who was divorcing him for having a small cock and I had to check it was true. It was so much fun, I had to take down all the particulars and then I started working out the volume of his penis, I worked out that if you have a 5 in cock which is 5 in around, which is what he had, then you have half the volume of a 7 in cock which is 6 in around.

That’s some good maths.

Well I do have two maths A levels.

So I was humiliating him about it and that was fun, so yeah humiliation is fun. But there is a really fine line with humiliation and I think until I know somebody I can’t fully relax with it. Someone could genuinely have a hang up about something. I don’t want anyone to hate me, not truly. They can think I’m good at being a bitch, but don’t hate me, please!

  • What are the best qualities you look for in a sub? Is that different between a personal sub and one that books a session?

Well they all start off as one and become the other really.

So is there something that makes them stand out?

It’s personality, it is simply their personality and if I hit it off with them. I quite like people who seem genuine. Admittedly, sometimes my judgement is really out on that but I like people who seem like they are straight up, what you see is what you get. If I feel like someone if trying to be someone else just to please me then that doesn’t really please me, even though they think it does. So being themselves and being a polite, genuine, honest person and having some integrity is also important.

  • If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?

Try and have some empathy and think about how your behaviour comes across and how you would like to be treated if the roles were reversed. If they can put themselves in my position I have to let a complete stranger into my chambers, I have to be dressed in rubber or whatever, then I have to watch them do my cleaning or whatever it is they want to do. If they put themselves in my position how do you think that would feel, actually it can be a bit of a drag if the person you’ve let in isn’t nice to be around.

  • What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?

The first one is not reading the website and asking me stupid pointless questions. That’s huge, probably 50% of my emails are things that I should never have to respond to because if they had read up in advance they would already know the answer.

Do you respond to those emails?

Depends on the mood I’m in on the day really, and how it’s worded as well. Sometimes they don’t get an answer, sometimes they get a snotty answer and other times I just explain really nicely how they should have read my website if they were serious about coming to see me.

Another mistake is lying: don’t lie! There is no point lying to me of all people. Not turning up and saying your car broke down, or your auntie’s neighbour’s dog got the runs, is so pointless – just be honest and say you bottled it, then I can help you to not bottle it next time!

Another one would be to please have a shower before you come, or ask to use the shower when you arrive, it’s just a polite thing to do and avoids you the embarrassing situation of being asked to go and wash yourself during the session. Also, if a Dominatrix offers you a mint, it’s usually for a reason!

  • How do you prepare for a session or a scene to get into Domme headspace? Do you have to?

I think I’m always in it, because I’m around it all the time. I will wake up and check my emails and go on twitter and immediately be in that zone. So I don’t really need to get in the headspace. Then it’s just setting up anything I need for my session and lighting my candles and putting on my music.

Do you find what you are wearing affects it?

Yeah, hair, make up, nail varnish.

Mood lights and mood music can play a part depending on what I’m doing, but the outfit is really important.

I know some Dommes just say I’m wearing what I’m wearing today and anyone that sees me will see me in that, but I do try to tailor what I’m wearing to the sessions. I do ask people what they would like to see me wearing and if it’s something that I’m happy to wear then I will do that because I think it massively helps. If you have got a leather fetish and I’m in jeans and t shirt it’s not going to work. At the end of the day my outfit is another tool, just like having a whip or anything else, which helps get the right dynamic.

  • Do you have a different approach to male/female subs? Do you see female subs?

Very occasionally, hardly ever really. The times I have mainly done things with female subs is when a guy has brought them along rather than it being the female subs coming on their own.

Do you think that’s because guys are just more likely to see a Pro Domme?

Yes, I think there is a quite unfair balance in terms of sex or kink or anything like that. If a woman walked into a bar full of men and said I want to have sex tonight who is giving me it, I don’t think the men would get upset and she would maybe or probably get what she wanted. Whereas if a man walked into a group of women at a bar and said right ladies I want to have sex tonight who is going to give me it, then he is going to get his face slapped. It’s a weird kind of imbalance. In the same way if a woman wanted to experience something kink wise she has more chance of finding it without going to see a professional.

Also the other thing is, I think women are better at fantasising, so a woman can keep something in her head and think it’s a nice idea, whereas men tend to really want to act on their fantasies. It’s kind of like a double edged sword, for men it’s maybe not as hard to say “this is what I want to do, can someone do it?”, and then have it done for them well. Women don’t necessarily feel the need to act of their urges as much. But yeah, send all the sub girls over my way, although thinking about it I would never get any work done.

When I have had couples come and you are doing something to their husband it’s a bit like “is it ok if I just do this to your husband’s penis?” Once you get started and everything is cool its fine, but the first couple of minutes I sometimes think “oh my god is she going to hit me, I just touched her husband’s cock?!”

So, do I approach it differently with a man or a women, yeah I think I do. The first thing I do if contacted by a woman wanting a session is demand she proves she is a woman. I get more fake women asking me for sessions than real women, unfortunately. So the first thing I would tell her would be to phone me, or asking for her number so I could verify her female status, it’s funny, they seem to stop emailing after you ask for a number.

That’s weird, I wonder why.

Yeah, its very strange haha.

How about with crossdressers, do you treat them differently to male subs that don’t dress?

No I don’t think I do. I have a couple who stay in character as female the whole time which is good, but I think I have learnt to be very straight up when organising for people to visit me, I’m probably quite blunt these days, old cynic really.

Actually, I think I would treat them differently if meeting in person, because I was quite nice to you at pedestal whereas I might not have been if you weren’t Jessica. Without even realising then, that is true because I was really sweet and nice to you I think, If you had been a bloke hanging around in his crusty boxers I might have told you to piss off. So I actually do.

  • As a keen follower of your twitter one thing I really like (other than the stunning pics of course) is your sense of humour and how you seem to include a lot of fun into your domination, do you think the fun almost lighter side of bdsm and the inclusion of humour is important? Is it something you try to do in session?

Yes, because I’m not naturally very good at the stern angry thing, I struggle with it, I can act it for a short period of time but I find it quite draining and it isn’t really me. I can do it in a playful way but it’s hard for long periods of time. I’m more kind of take the piss and jokey and fun. I can be a real cow too, but I’m more playful than horrid. I like men and I don’t think I do a very good act of the man hater thing, I actually only want people here that I like. I find it hard to pretend not to like someone I do like or pretend to like someone I don’t like. I have done a few sessions where I have decided part way through that I don’t like the person very much and I have been genuinely horrid to them – not in an abusive way, just more that I don’t have to try hard to tell them they disgust me because they actually do, but then I finish the session with a bad feeling and I don’t want to finish with a bad feeling, I want to finish with a good feeling. So those people aren’t allowed to come back.

I think people come to me already knowing what I’m like, and if people want to be absolutely degraded and treated like total dirt then they are not going to come and see me in the first place. Even my honey badger who drinks my pints of spit and things like that, I will laugh while he does it, I’m not telling him he’s a disgusting human for drinking my foul spit, I’m more telling him “that looks yummy”, I’m more taking the piss out of him, not being truly horrible. I’m just naturally a happy person, so no point trying to pretend I’m something I’m not.

So to answer the question succinctly, Yes.

  • Who would you most like to work with that you haven’t had the opportunity to do so yet, or who would you love to work with again?

Present company not included by the way.

Well obviously you, if it wasn’t you, let me think.

I have been on about doing something with Miss Sarah Jessica for so long and I have never got round to it so she is definitely someone who is on my list. I have been lucky really because I have already worked with so many cool people. The Hunteress was on my list and I have worked with her a few times now and she is so awesome, she’s on my list of people I want to work with again and again and again. I think she’s the most elegant and imaginative Domme I think I have met. She is really quick witted and creative and fun, and she is a very good actress as well, she’s like the ultimate Domme I think, she’s very cool.

I assume you will keep going back to The English Mansion as well?

Oh obviously, for as long as they’ll have me, that almost goes without saying, I just want to move in.

You and me both!

I’m sure they would have room for us both there in the dungeon or the pit, you can have the pit though.

I was filming there the other day. Filmed with Mistress T, she’s another one on my list because she’s very sharp. She is very nice, but she doesn’t suffer fools lightly so that’s quite cool. I admire she that’s she is quite cutting sometimes, she doesn’t let anyone behave like an asshole which I think it brilliant.

And I saw you did some stuff with Fetish Liza recently?

Oh yeah, she’s cool too, she is really fun. She just looks amazing, she has got the best wardrobe of anyone I have ever met – and I have seen some amazing wardrobes!

So there is always a long list of people you would like to work with?

Yes, but I’m scared to give you an actual list because when I forget someone I would feel like I insulted them, so let’s just say everyone.

  • What sort of music do you like to have for session?

Depends really – I like a bit of Metallica or Marilyn Mansion if I’m doing something violent or bum fucking, something more chilled out like Portishead if it’s something like foot worship. I also like Biffy Clyro. It depends what I’m doing but I do like a bit of nasty hard rock if I’m fucking someone in the bum. If it’s going to ruin the roleplay having music then I wouldn’t have any. Music can get me in the mood, Sepultura is good if I’m being really sadistic.

I find music can really help during play, helps me get in the right frame of mind.

Yes it definitely can do, it can also ruin it though. The worst music crime incident I ever had happen to me was when I thought I had all good music on my iPod so I just put it on random, I can’t remember exactly what I was doing with my sub but The Birdie Song came on which just killed everything.

Haha moment gone!

Yes just totally gone. So yeah I do not recommend the birdy song! I didn’t even know it was on there, out of all the 10,000 songs that could have played, the fucking birdy song played at just the wrong moment.

So music can make a moment and it can kill a moment

It can totally kill a moment, yes!

 

  • Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?

If someone gives me a background for a roleplay that they want to do then I think I have a really good imagination and I can actually believe I’m that person for the duration of that roleplay. I will fill it out and I know all my own background history and what my motivation is and how we have got to this point where I have got my employee over my knee, or whatever it is.

If subs don’t tell me a scene that they fantasise about and it literally is just a straight up Domme session then I pretty much just see how I feel at the time. If I have been given guide lines, which isn’t like a shopping list, but more like them saying I haven’t tried this before and maybe would like to try it, or equally could be “anything at all, as long as you don’t stick something up my bum”. In those cases I will pretty much play around – I don’t even know what is going to happen. So when they ask me what’s going to happen I can honestly say I haven’t got a clue, let’s find out.

  • What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?

Obviously The English Mansion.

I think what I was saying about Hunteress applies to the English Mansion as well because I think Mistress Sidonia is so imaginative, where some of it comes from I can’t even think. It is so original and so good. It’s not just picking ideas out of nowhere that no one has done before just to be original, they are original but still really appealing. Yeah, I am not worthy!

When you film at places like English Mansion, do you bring your own subs?

Sometimes, it depends, I like to, but equally they have a good stable of blokes that they can use.

If you didn’t take your own sub, then you wouldn’t know who it was until you arrived?

Occasionally no, which is the only thing I ever find difficult because I usually want to have met somebody before I will film with them. The thing I don’t like about filming with people I don’t know is that I don’t know their limits beforehand and that quite a big burden, because everybody is different. People can say “you can kick me really hard” but my idea of really hard will be totally different to theirs. So I have always found that tricky which is why when I film for my own sites I will only use people I have sessioned with or met so that I can be sure, and also that way you know they are going to turn up.

With The English Mansion though, you also know that whoever they have got there is definitely going to be ok. Whereas a few of the shoots I did right at the start of my career for some of the wrestling sites were different. The very first one I did nearly put me off the whole thing before it began. This guy turned up and he smelt like a wet dog, he took me to one side and said ‘I don’t mind if you permanently ruin me, whatever you want to do, its fine with me, really fuck me up’.

In that creepy voice?

Yes. I totally freaked out and I called in the guys that were producing it and said sorry, I’m not touching him – first thing is he smells and second thing is he is really creepy. I would handle that a lot better now though, I would just tell him to get in the shower then just carry on with what I wanted to do, but at that time I wasn’t equipped to cope with that. They had to send him away and one of the guys that was meant to be working the camera had to be in the videos with me.

 

  • If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?

Decisions decisions, I’m so picky though! As soon as they started smoking cigarettes then I wouldn’t want them near me, no matter who they were! They would have to be a definitely non-smoking version of anybody.

I get the impression Simon out of Biffy Clyro would be an amazing sub.

Yeah, he looks like he could take a fair bit.

Yeah that’s what I mean, he looks like he would be fun to play with because he would probably let you really fuck him up, so I would have him.

This is going to be tricky, a woman to be a sub for me….It’s sort of saying I kind of want to hurt them, I’m always a bit funny about hurting women, I want to hurt men, I just want to look at women and admire they how pretty they are.

She could be a sub just serving you not wearing much.

Yeah, just walking round in a bikini! Oh then it would definitely be Pink, but I’m not sure I would want to Domme her because she seems pretty Domme herself, she would probably kick my arse if I tried to Domme her! Maybe she could be just my assistant or my alpha sub, above the pack.

But slightly below you.

Yeah slightly below me obviously.

  • What are some of you favourite things to do away from bdsm?

I like to go to concerts and festivals, go running and like to hang out with my friends.

Just wanted to end this one with a huge thank you to Nikki Whiplash for letting me visit and interview her for the afternoon, was a lot of fun and an absolute pleasure, so thank you very much!

 

JD x x

If in doubt, Latex!

I have always liked latex but my love of latex was only really about the fact that I loved the look of it on others. I found (and still find) a Domme wearing a latex dress to be very sexy, It might be a little cliche having a Domme in a latex dress as one of my favourite looks, but who cares, its fucking hot!

Then about a year ago I started to discover there was more to my latex fetish than i originally realised. I wanted to try it myself! I started to try a few different things, leggings, skirt etc. I very quickly found out how incredible latex looks, feels and even smells when wearing it, and ever since then i have been hooked. I was hooked right from the start, hooked enough to find a dress online that I really wanted and plan to buy it.

But then that’s as far as I got for quite a while, things kept stopping me from actually buying it. Money was one of those things, but the main one was really confidence. I loved the dress and knew I wanted to try it but there was that little voice in my head saying maybe you wont suit latex, maybe you wont look that good in it, maybe you couldn’t get away with wearing it out to a club. I’m a little embarrassed to say this actually stopped me from ordering it for months, i kept going back to the site and looking at it and every time thinking yep I still want it, but then stopping myself from ordering.

Then about a month ago I got my hands on a discount code for the site and this was enough of a final little push for me to actually buy the thing!

So the site I was looking at was Westward Bound and it has since become one of my favourite sites, if i had the money then i would literally buy one of everything on there, but one step at a time!

So I knew which dress I wanted, then I had to decide on colour. I knew i wanted my dress to be blue but there were about 5 or 6 different blues on the site to pick from. After umming and awwing about which to go for, I finally decided on a colour and waited patiently (a patiently as i can anyway) for it to arrive in the post. When it finally arrived I had a few mixed feelings about it. I loved the dress itself but I wasn’t sure on the colour, too green for my liking, so I returned and and ordered a far more bluerer one…. :)

This ofcourse meant waiting for the new dress to arrive but luckily this didn’t take long at all, and before long I had another package from Westward Bound waiting for me. This time when I opened it up I was beaming.

I loved it!

It was exactly how I originally pictured it and couldn’t help but smile as I unwrapped it and had a proper look. Once i tried it on I loved it even more, i loved how it felt, I loved the colour and I loved how it looked (from almost all angles). Now I just want to wear it all the time and most of all I want to wear out! The only thing I need to do before that is possible go on a diet haha!

I very much doubt this will be the last piece of latex I buy myself, the only question now is what to buy next!

 

JD x x

Interview with Nikki Whiplash Part I

The first time (and prior to this interview the only time) I met Nikki Whiplash was at Pedestal one evening last year, I still remember first seeing her in the club and asking Ely, slightly excitedly if she would introduce me, happily Ely did. I had known of Nikki Whiplash for a while before that and she was without doubt on the ‘would love to meet her but probably never going to happen’ list, so to be able to say hello was a pleasure and even more so when we chatted and I very quickly realised just how nice and friendly a person she is!

I had been thinking about doing this sort of blog post for a little while and having previous asked her for advice on another blog and loved the answer she gave, I knew once I started doing the interviews that Nikki Whiplash was someone I really wanted to interview and hopefully get to know a little more about. So I emailed and to my delight she said yes :)

So not too long ago I was very lucky to be able to go over to visit Nikki and sit down and chat for a few hours, ask her lots of question all about herself, her kink, how it all started and about being a Pro Domme. I hope you might find this as interesting to read as I found it interesting to do. (sorry its long but Nikki does like to talk!) haha :P

 

  • How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?

I think I did because I used to beat up all my male friends when I was younger, but I didn’t understand that’s what I was doing at the time. Jessica Wood got me into doing modelling when I was about 19, we were both doing topless modelling and stuff like that and one day I met a guy at a studio who filmed wrestling and he was telling me about it, and I was like, “you’re going to pay me to do that?” That’s something I always do anyway so of course I will do that. I was quite naïve and innocent in a lot of ways because I didn’t have a clue that guys liked what I was doing to them, I thought they were unwillingly like “oh no, don’t beat me up Nikki” and I thought they really meant that. Although looking back now I know they liked it, at the time I was quite innocent and I thought they didn’t like it and I was really powerful because I could always beat them but maybe with hindsight they were kind of letting me win. So I went and did a fantasy wrestling shoot where I pretty much sat on top of this bloke. This website was called shesgothim and you pretty much pinned the guy down and sat on top of him and told him you were stronger than him, which was fabulous.

You’re still doing that today

Exactly! Nothing’s changed. So I did that shoot and I had already got pretty peed off with the topless modelling thing because the disrespectful men used to really really annoy me. So I gave that up pretty much straight away and decided “I’m just going to beat up men instead, this is perfect!” so it was really fate. People then saw me wrestling and said “what about kicking me in the nuts, would you do that?” so I said yeah I will kick you in the balls if you like.

So the wrestling was the start and it just built from there?

Yeah totally and it just kept growing, so someone would see me in a ball busting video and would ask would you mind spanking my bum, I would not have any stuff to do it but I would say yes, if you show me how and it just carried on from there. It got more and more kinky – I thought getting your boobs out was risqué at that time but there was this whole world I had never heard of. Then about a year later I bought Mistresswhiplash.com and that was that.

  • How did you first get in being a Pro Domme, was it something that you always wanted to try, did it happen quite quickly after getting into kink?

Apart from beating up boyfriends, like play fighting, I did have some PVC outfits and stuff that my boyfriend had got me at the time and some boots. I was going out in thigh high boots and stuff like that, but I hadn’t thought “I’m a dominant woman”, I actually thought I was a bit of a cow because I knew I quite liked being mean to men and actually thought there was probably something mentally wrong with me because I enjoyed it.

Before you realised there is a lot of people out there that like to do that and that like it done to them.

Exactly, and LIKE having it done to them because that was always the thing that didn’t quite sit right with me. None of my boyfriends had said to me “I like it when you pin me to the floor”, or “I like it when you’re a bit rotten to me or when you humiliate me in public”. I was doing it not realising that they were getting something from it, but none of them ever told me off, so I guess they were enjoying it.

Even if you didn’t realise it at the time, do you think that you were attracting submissive guys?

Yeah, totally I think so, and they were buying me PVC clothes and stuff like that so the clues were there!

That’s a strong hint.

Yeah, so that was the way their heads were going, but I was so naive, such an innocent little thing and I didn’t really know what was going on. I didn’t think I was a ‘Domme’ until I got paid to do the wrestling then I suddenly found out it wasn’t just me being a cow. So really I was a pro Domme first and then it went back the other way.

That’s probably quite unusual.

Yeah, I think so, but I was very young, I was a pro Domme at 20.

Again quite unusual, not many good Dommes at 20 I don’t think.

I don’t think I was a GOOD Domme by any means, I was more like “bring me some money and a stick and I will hit you with it!” I think I said I was a Domme but I look back now and cringe. I think I had one riding crop and my thigh high boots that I already had, PVC underwear my boyfriend had got me and a leather jacket and I thought I was a Domme. I think I was a bit of a plastic Domme, like an insta-Domme, do they still call them insta-Dommes? haha

I know what you mean

Now if I saw someone like me doing that I would think,” god what is she doing!?”

I think the difference is most of those sort of Dommes fizzle out and stop, whereas you have gone on and on.

Yeah and I did grab it, and learn and invest in it, I tried to learn everything I could and figure out which way I wanted to go. I didn’t just go “yeah if you give me some money I will spit in your eye” or whatever, I think I was a bit more structured. I’m sure there are people out there somewhere who crossed my path who’d say I wasn’t, though.

I don’t think you would be where you are today if you weren’t

Someone I handcuffed to a radiator once might disagree.

And you said you were 19 then?

Yeah 19 or 20, which makes it 14 years since I first kicked a man in the nuts, which explains why I have arthritis in my left foot. Yeah, if you kick a lot on men in the balls repeatedly then you crack a few bones and over time it can get a bit creaky, haha never mind, everyone has to have an industrial injury.

  • What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?

That’s tricky isn’t it, it’s different on different days, depending on what kind of a day you’re having or who you’re seeing and stuff. I think the best thing about being a pro Domme versus another job is that I get to choose exactly what I do and I don’t have to do anything that I don’t enjoy which is really cool. It takes, well it took me, a while to get to that point because you don’t necessarily know what you like doing and don’t like doing. Now I can literally say no thanks if I don’t like the sound of what someone is into, I just don’t have to do it. I never feel forced to do anything, I can just say no, it’s quite empowering. Plus if I want a day off I just decide I’m going to have a day off and that’s that. It’s pretty awesome.

  • What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?

Let’s see, I didn’t do many other jobs. I was a veterinary nurse for a long time, I starting when I was 13 and it was a weekend thing. I did it all the way through school and all the way through college and then the day I sat my last A level I got a job as a veterinary nurse and I loved it, but it’s quite stressful and its all the things this job isn’t. I was working long hours and not getting paid much, but that was definitely the best.

I didn’t really have many other jobs, I liked being a bar maid, that was quite fun. I stacked selves in a super market that was a bit rubbish.

We have all been there, I did that for while.

Even that though, something mindless like that gives you loads of time to think, so even though the actual act of what your doing isn’t cool, I would sit and stack things and get the labels all perfect which was kind of fun in a weird way, you can just let your mind wander. You can file away your day’s events really easily because you can sit and work through everything. Still to this day my cupboards are immaculate, everything is faced up beautifully so I have learnt something from it, so it’s good, and it helps with the sissy maid training!

So I haven’t really got a worst job, because even the topless modelling, some of it was really fun. I did bondage modelling and I learnt quite a lot from that. I know what it feels like to be in all those positions that someone would get tied up in here. I understand how your fingers can go numb after a while and all those kind of things, which you can’t empathise with if you haven’t tried. I used to really love bondage modelling, I’m not sub and I used to always try and escape, and I normally did, but enjoyed the pushing yourself physically to handle something like being suspended, it’s really cool.

That is something I find very rewarding.

Yes it is very rewarding. It was just certain days of being a nude model were bad, you would have something terrible happen. This goes back to the being able to choose, at that time because it was my main income I kind of had to take the bookings if I wanted to pay my mortgage. Having someone book you because they want to do an outdoor shoot and then trying to drag you into their car isn’t fun.

That actually happened?

Yeah, really, it was terrible. He literally tried to pull me into his car and told me if I didn’t get into his car he would ruin my career and I would never work again and all this kind of thing. At this point he is pulling me into the car but I got away from him and it was fine. Also having someone take the mick, telling you you have got to do something you didn’t agree to do, if you want to be paid… I think I was always strong enough to say no but I hated that atmosphere. So there was the odd day doing that where it was horrible but most of it was really positive.

How long did you do the modelling for?

I was doing that on my days off, I think I was in my first ever nude magazine about a week after my 18th birthday!

Then there was a cross over point doing the modelling and the wrestling?

Yeah, and at this point I was still a veterinary nurse as well because I was working my arse off. I just liked working I think, so I was doing three or four long days veterinary nursing, then my days off I was doing everything else. I then stopped doing the veterinary nursing and was being a bar maid and doing everything else. Then gradually I was starting to be able to pick and choose what nude modelling I was doing and then just decided I’m not doing any of it. I would do the odd shoot with a photographer who I though was cool but I didn’t have to do the whole “go on then – there are my boobs, I don’t even know if you have film in your camera” thing. That was back in the days of film cameras!

So you wouldn’t have seen any pictures on the day?

No, film in the camera, if they have even put film in the camera. So a lot of the time you would be counting the clicks, so you would be like “that’s 24 ok, so that’s 36, oh ok so he is still going, so you have a 48 exposure roll of film here?” I suppose you just kind of accept that they just want to see your boobs really, and that’s cool, but I wish they could have just been honest and not bothered with the camera! It was interesting, it was just the kind of guys that it would sometimes attract, they would have very poor people skills with women, and they would talk to you like you’re a complete slut. I couldn’t wait to not have to do that because it was getting harder and harder because of my personality, and there were a few times where I just walked out or had words with people, it was getting harder and harder just to keep smiling when I just wanted to smack their bottoms.

But most of them were lovely.

  • How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?

Got to be done by my contact form otherwise I don’t get all the information I want.

Which is on your website?

Which is on my website, which is easy to find. If you can’t find it then you have failed the first test for being able to come and see me.

  • What can a client expect from you in their first visit to see you?

I think I’m normally quite friendly, unless they have specifically asked me not to be. I have been told I make people feel relaxed, that I don’t threaten them in any way and they are at ease quite quickly. I think when people go and see a Domme especially if they have not seen one before, they don’t know what they are walking into, could be a mafia ring for all they know. I can assure them it’s not!…..unless, of course, that’s the role-play we are doing!

Have you ever had that roleplay?

Similar, walking in, being jumped the second they get through the door, that’s really fun! The second I open the door it starts, kind of like a kidnap, but a consensual one. Bundled into the boot of a car is fun too.

I quite like the whole idea of outdoor, it’s something I have not tried, bondage outdoor is really high on my list.

Oh yeah, especially if your covered in jam so all the flies come, it’s the best way.

Haha, it would ruin my dress though

It would be pretty pink though.

  • Other that real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do anything other than real time

I prefer real time. I do have a wish list, but I wouldn’t say I’m a full on Fin Domme because a lot of the time I find it quite draining on my time in return for not very much, so I actually find it nicer if someone comes to see me in real time because I can actually get to know them before I bleed them dry – heehee.

Do you do cam at all?

No not really, I only do cam with people I know. I used to do a lot of camming about 10 years ago but I find I can do so much better in person so I try to encourage that. I suppose I have a few subs that I have never met, but I don’t talk to them on cam. Yeah, real time is definitely my preferred method, if not then cheques and postal orders, or hard cash haha

  • Are you looking for a personal sub?

No!

Well – as in a boyfriend, or as in someone who comes to do stuff for free, or someone who lives here?

Depends how you would define a personal sub?

Well that’s the trouble isn’t it, I will get at least an email a week where somebody offers themselves to me fully. They are going to live in, forever, and they are going to be the best sub I have ever had, obviously. They are going to do all my cleaning and I can treat them like dirt and they think that’s a good offer to make haha. Whereas to me, the thought of having a stranger move in and not pay me any rent and me have to tell them off all the time sounds rubbish, it doesn’t sound like fun at all. So – am I looking for the personal sub to move in and be fed, watered and have me pay their council tax for them? No. Other than that, personal subs wise, there are a few people I see through sessions who might then become personal subs, but I don’t think it’s something where I actively seek a set person to do a set thing. Sometimes if you hit it off with someone then you want them around more, so that’s why I have three or four people who hang around quite a lot. Someone could be the best cleaner in the world, but if they’re a twat I still wouldn’t want them hanging around me!

So the personal subs you see a lot would have started in session and then over time you time up a relationship?

Yes I think so, and then at some point either I have said to them do you want to do more, or they have said I have got this skill that I want to offer you which is over and above what we do in sessions and if it seems like something that works for all of us then it happens. But I am not actively advertising for a personal sub because for example things like the cleaning, if you find a real good genuine submissive who just wants to do it for the love of being s sub that’s fantastic, but what you generally find is somebody who wants you to strut around in leather holding a whip, telling them off when they do it wrong and towering over them the whole time. In which case I can do it myself, thanks.

Or they could book a session and do it that way?

Exactly, which unfortunately you get your head bitten off for sometimes when you say “you can come and be my maid but you do need to pay for the privilege”. Presumably they want to be a maid for a lady in a nice leather outfit and high heels and make up done, they don’t want to be a maid for me in my scruffy tracksuit. So there is still that transaction and sometimes people forget that and think I’m being snotty. I’m not, it’s just that if I accepted every single person who said they wanted to come be my personal slave then there would be hundreds of people living here.

And you would never have a moment to yourself.

Yes exactly, and it actually sounds really bizarre but having someone come and slave for you is quite a giving thing to do because you are giving them all your attention, so if I’m doing that all the time, I have got to stop and think about myself sometimes. I think people get confused because they have been doing my cleaning and they have been doing something nice for me, but I have been doing something nice for them by watching them do my cleaning. But back to answering the question I suppose, “no.”

Haha just no

Just no, yeah that’s a good answer, no. But if someone takes my fancy and they are offering it and I’m asking for it then it’s different! In a purely servile manner of “offering it”, not offering sexual favours obviously!

Important to clear than up

Well, you know, unless they are offering to suck off my other subs for me, that could be quite handy.

Do all your personal subs know each other?

Yeah they do, and that’s another thing which is really hard about having personal slaves, they all really kind of adore you to want to be your personal slave and sometimes they won’t mix that well. There will be rivalries and things like that, so you have to find the right mix of people who will get along. If you think that bloke sat over there is a complete arsehole then you are not going to want to hang around for long, are you?

I guess a little bit of rivalry is good?

Yes, makes them work harder doesn’t it?!

  • I know that you have a few websites, how many is it that you have and are there other places people could contact you?

I actually have 7 websites, but two of them aren’t really Femdom. So I have one where girls sit on girls, one where it’s cat fighting. I have got an oil wrestling one, a mixed wrestling one which is mainly Femdom, one where it’s girls sitting on guys’ faces, the ball busting site and my site.

They are all linked and there is a loyalty thing so if you join and stay as a member you get access to the others, and the longer you stay the better it gets, in the end they can access everything.

www.mistresswhiplash.com

www.ballbustingworld.com

www.cattyfights.com

www.lethalbitches.com

www.sitonher.com

www.mixedoilwrestling.com

www.facesittingbitches.com            

I don’t use Facebook as I found it really quite hard work to maintain whereas I much prefer twitter, until the next thing comes along anyway.

twitter.com/nikkiwhiplash

The eagle eyed people will have noticed this is part I of the interview and part II will follow soon :)

JD x x

Kink Room 101

I had the idea recently of doing a Room 101 blog post for kink things, things that I see happen within kink which I would be quite happy to never see again or just things that are a personal pet hate  of mine.

For those of you that don’t know, Room 101 is a place introduced in the novel Nineteen Eighty-Four by George Orwell. It is a torture chamber in the Ministry of Love in which the Party attempts to subject a prisoner to his or her own worst nightmare, fear or phobia.

You asked me once, what was in Room 101. I told you that you knew the answer already. Everyone knows it. The thing that is in Room 101 is the worst thing in the world.

(yes that was stolen straight from Wikipedia, its just like being at uni all over again, I got away with it then so figured I would get away with it now as well)

Also and possibly more well know…., room 101 was a TV program where celebs name their pet hates and then had to persuade the host to consign them to a ‘fate worse than death’ in Room 101. So that is what im going to do and here are my five things.

1) Guys that message me (or anyone else for that matter) saying something a long the lines of  ‘I see you serve female Dommes but what you need is a ‘real man’ to make you feel really submissive/feminine’.  No no no! I really don’t, for me nothing makes me feel more submissive than a beautiful dominant women that wants to dominant me.

2) The middle finger pose – Dommes that insist on doing the middle finger pose and thinking it somehow makes them look more dominant. I just don’t get this and it has the complete opposite effect on me, I think its quite dull and very unoriginal. I am and never will be a fan.

Punishment Pants

3) The punishment pants from English Mansion – I had to wear these when filming with Ely the last time I was there, and lets just say that was by far my least favourite part of the day! I would be quite happy if those disappear for ever and ever haha. I always thought I would never put this pic on my blog but instead of explaining what the punishment pants are I think its easier just to show a picture, so here is a very small pic of me having to wear them.

4) Cleaning! I know I own a maids uniform but I can safely say that that is for show only, and most people that know me will be able to confirm that. I love the dress and how it looks but doing the actual cleaning, I wouldn’t know where to start, and I wouldn’t want to know haha

5) Body Hair – I’m just not a fan, and this counts for my own and body hair on other people, it is all so much more sexy when smooth.

So that is my five that I thought of off the top of me head and now I would love to hear yours!

If you feel like playing please feel free to add your own kink pet hates to add to room 101 in a comment on this post, they can be as serious or as ridiculous as you like or maybe a mixture of both. So if you occasionally read my blog but have never commented on a post (you know who you are!!) then this is the one to comment on!

I look forward to seeing any replies but I of course get to decide if I add them to my kink room 101 or not. :P

 

JD x x.

Picture Timeline part 6

Well this is part 6 of my picture timeline following on (unsurprisingly) from part 5 that I posted in June last year. I was always planning to do a few of these a year so was a little surprised to see I hadnt done one since last June, but that just means more pics in this post now as these go right back to the summer and some as recent as a few weeks ago. Since the last post I have continued to have a lot of fun and have continued to try lots of new things and had new experiences. Long may it continue! :)

JD x x