I am deighted to be able to post my most recent interview on my blog, an interview with Fetish Liza. I have been a fan of Liza ever since I first saw her pictures online when I was first getting into kink all those years ago, and have wanted to meet her for just as long. So you can imagine my how happy I was when she said it would be possible to meet me in ‘sunny’ Swindon for a couple of hours for me to ask her a few questions. I have to say I am even more of a fan now we have met and found some of the topics of conversation incredibly interesting and eye opening. I really do hope that we are able to meet again soon and its safe to say I have never wanted to visit Germany or Hungray more than I do now!
I huge thank you to Liza for taking a couple of hours out of her very busy schedule and doing the interview with me. I hope you all enjoy reading it.
It started a long time ago, I was very sexually immature until I was about 18 years old when I went for my first and only piercing in a fetish and piercing shop. Downstairs they had clothes, shoes, rubber and latex and upstaies was the actual piercing shop. I got my piercing but I was more interested in the clothing downstairs so I started to save up my money to buy my first pair of shoes and bit by bit I started to build up a small collection of clothes. I then saw an advert in a magazine in Belgium for a photographer that was looking for models. I wasn’t really the type to just say yes I’m going to do this, this is cool. Actually I was wary of it, I thought I’m going to do this once and see how it goes. I went and did it and he was a really nice guy and the pictures were great and by the next day I already had another job and people started booking me. I got in contact with a photographer from the States and I started doing more professional shoots.
The person that got me more into real fetlish and domination was a guy called Tony Ward, a photographer from Philadelphia and he did shoots with me in black and white with things like strap ons etc. Although its not now, 15 years ago it was a big deal. I liked it and he said to me I should do this professionally, so I started to make a very small amateur website and it went ok so I took a bit of a risk by making my own websites and build it up bit by bit from there.
It was actually the same guy, he was looking for a fetish model, someone with a dominant look. I was working as an operator in like a webcam house, so I would check the girls were doing their shifts etc and he picked me out of all the girls there, he said I looked very strict like a dominatrix. I wasnt really aware of it at that stage but thanks to him I started to explore. I never grew up thinking yes I am going to be a Domme, just bit by bit one thing led to another. Its very hard to say an exact date when it happened. I started with very soft fetishy stuff and have grown into different areas of domination, and there are still areas I would not do now, I think everyone has their areas of speciality or their interests. I dont have the feeling that I have to know everything and do everything, I do what I like to do, and maybe next year I will like to do something else and then I will do that. I dont feel the pressure to learn lots of things that are of no interest to me, for example rope bondage, I can’t even tie my shoe laces properly. I’m not ashamed to admit if I am not good at it, there are other people that are fabulous at it, so why would I learn it and not do it wholeheartedly when somebody else loves it and they are very good at it.
Meeting people and making them happy. I know a lot of people would say its the subs that have to make you happy but I think it works both ways, that is my main thing.
Is it mainly regulars that you see for sessions or mainly new people?
I think on each trip it is about 80% regular people and everytime I get new people coming in. I try to organise my trips a few months in advance but even with regulars it is not always possible for them to meet me if I am only there for a few days. So every trip I will have some new people and in general people will return, but also some people will see you once and then want to see someone else because they like the variety, which is also fine.
My best job is the one I have now because I have my own freedom. I don’t think I would want to do anything else. I only want to expand by adding new things like a fetish bed and breakfast and maybe even my own clothing brand.
My worst job is probably a dish washer at a highway restaurant. That was when I was 16 during school holidays, I was literally up to my elbows in all kinds of dirty stuff.
Well somethings haven’t changed.
Haha yes, I had to put my whole arm into the machine to get all the dirt out and without gloves, maybe thats why I love my gloves now.
Its best to email me, they can find my email address on my website. Some people also get in touch with me on twitter which is fine, but they would still have to email me. I dont give out any phone number until they have a confirmed booking which means they have paid a deposit, because I know from experience if you give out your phone number people will call you for different reasons. I just don’t have time for it, I am always travelling, working or sessioning so I just don’t have time to chit chat with everyone and I don’t mean that in a bad way. I think in an initial email they can put what they are looking for, interests, things they don’t want to do and a bit about their personality and that is actually all I need to know, the rest I will see on the day itself.
It is sad to say that there are a lot of time wasters and fakes in England, and London.
Is it worse in England than in other countries?
Yes, and it is only getting worse but that is probably because there are a lot of people that know about it and do it. In other countries the majority of people that contact me will end up sessioning with me whereas the majority that contact me in England don’t have any intention of seeing me. I get a lot of emails but I can stop the fakes by the way people write the emails and try to formulate how they want to session with you and the type of questions they ask. It is quite sad because there are still a lot of genuine people out there. Its a shame because the Dommes get annoyed and then maybe the next email is from someone genuine and it can be hard to not let the last one annoy you, you have make sure you treat every individual separately.
In general I will ask them a few things in an email and then when I see them the first time I take about 10 minutes just to talk with them. For some reason they are all very nervous and start knocking things over haha. So I will just sit down with them and help them calm down. Whether they travel by car or tube or whatever, they had a journey to come see me so they are not in the right frame of mind so the 5 or 10 mins helps them get their head together or to chill out. We will talk about their interests, health issues or if certain parts of the body are more fragile than others, then we will get on with it. In general I don’t use a safe word because I don’t think I need one, I just tell them keep it simple, if they want me to stop say stop, no green light or red light or anything, stop is effective. After the session they can shower and talk about about what they enjoyed and I just make sure they are not wandering around on a different cloud when they leave.
No, I have my membership websites, clip stores and building my own dungeon at home. I do private shoots so people can book me to be in a photo shoot or video but for their own private use. A bit like custom videos but they can actually be in it. I organise kinky trips, so it could be organising shoots for them, bringing them to parties, showing them where to shop and things like that. I travel a lot and don’t have time for phone or webcam.
Is it just because you don’t have time or is it also because you wouldn’t enjoy it?
I did webcam stuff about 15 years ago, it was still in the beginning and new and exciting but now it’s just not my thing, now my time is more important. If I have some free time I dont want to sit behind a webcam and I certainly don’t want to be on a phone. I think I do enough!
I have two and a few people in my personal life that serve me once in a while, for example I have a slave in Switzerland that I will see a few times a year. I dont want this 24/7 grovelling, I can’t handle it. I don’t want to wake up every single day with someone sniffing at my feet. I think it’s a mind set, you can have your playful moments but I wouldn’t want someone in my dungeon living there for months on end because it would drive me nuts. I need my space and my privacy and I don’t want somebody there all the time.
I have three main sites
I am also working on two others called Dirty Dommes and Dirty Trans Dolls which will hopefully be up and running by May. Dirty Dommes will be all my Femdom stuff and Dirty Trans Dolls will be me with other Dommes, crossdressers, transvestites and rubber dolls. Whereas my fetishLiza site will be more a personal website and just me, it used to be all under one site but I think its better to separate it.
Also I use twitter and facebook and instagram.
I’m not really an equipment type of person, I like the body contact. I like my outfits and my gloves etc but the things I use the most are strap ons of various sizes which I like because it keeps me in shape haha. I also like nipple clamps, a flogger and I like furniture like bondage beds or strap on bench. I dont really need that much equipment. For me the use of too much equipment bores me.
It really depends on my mood or where I am going or who I am wearing it with, and why I’m wearing it. In general I do like leather but my favourite is a latex catsuit, boots, gloves and corset, I can wear that for days on end. I have being doing it for 15 years so have quite a collection, a lot of people ask me how big is my closet, well my closet is the whole of the third floor, hundreds of things and hundreds of boots and shoes but I still end up wearing the same ones.
Do you have a favourite latex shop or store?
Yes I like Bondinage because the guy that makes it is a good friend of mine, he gets my measurements right. If there is something wrong he will fix it and he gives good after service which is not always the case. I think if your spend £500 on a catsuit of £300 on a corset and it rips then they should fix it and for free. I’m not going to give out the brand but I got a pair of gloves and they had a tiny hole in them and the company charged me to fix it, because of that I will not shop there again.
Honesty, I hate lies. Also loyalty, cleanliness and if I can earn their trust eventually.
If you want to session with me or book a shoot then keep it short and to the point on the first email. Just give me an introduction on who you are and what you are looking for and keep it short. I have a lot of people asking for custom videos and before I have even said yes they will send me three pages of writing, I don’t have time to read three pages! I will know more about a person talking to them on the phone for 5 or 10 minutes then reading what they wrote down for pages and pages in emails.
I have never had anyone make any mistakes during or after, I don’t think I would session with anyone that made a mistake before so session wise we are fine. If I meet them I have already filtered them.
One thing I can’t stand it is when peple send me repetitive messages. I will answer a message and then they will send me each question in a different message so one day I will have 50 emails from one person. Just put it in one email and keep it short and to the point. As I get so many emails every day I need to know who is who, I’m very good at that but I can’t attach 50 emails in my brain to this person or that person, so I always say reply to each email so I can see the whole conversation.
Another thing is assuming I will do certain things, because I do certain things in videos doesn’t mean I will do it in sessions. Sessions, videos, real life, everything is different.
I think in all the years I have sessioned I have only had a few people that cancelled last min, but because I ask for a deposit which is none refundable I have already covered myself. People always forget that I come from a different country and have a suitcase and a bag and I will bring rubber, boots, leather in that. I have no problem with someone asking for me to wear something they have seen in the video but people forget I have to drag it all round the airport and if it’s cancelled I’m doing that for nothing and that pisses me off. Luckily that doesnt happen often.
Generally I don’t really book that many people in a day. Even though I am a pro Domme and I do sessions its not my main job, when I come over I don’t have to do a certain amount of sessions to cover costs and basically pay bills from it. I do the sessions with the people I think it will be fun with and there are quite a few that I do say no I don’t think this is going to work.
If I have a session on that day I will just check in the morning if I have the time right and send them a message where possible. I will prepare my outfit, make sure the dungeon is clean and ready and read up about who they are and that’s it, the rest comes naturally. I dont have to think or plan an order, I just know their certain interests and go with that. Everything else depends on body language on the day.
I think I am the same person now as I would be if I was in a dungeon, I can be sweet, I can laugh and don’t think you have to take it too seriously but if you piss me off you will know about it.
I very rarely have female subs, I do sometimes have some couples but I don’t think I treat them any differently, I am always the same. I don’t really think about it. I don’t really see many crossdressers or TVs in sessions, I think for some reason I can be still quite taboo, but I’m not going to judge anyone, putting your wig on is just as normal as putting on your rubber shorts or your gimp mask to me, I have been doing this for 15 years they should be relaxed about it with me.
I think the fetish scene in each country is very different, even the word fetish is different. If you look at Europe fetish mens rubber, leather and dungeons and it is a lot about outfits whereas in the states it can be different, it can be like an ass fetish. I think in every country fetish, kink and bdsm can be seen differently.k
Do you have a favourite country for the fetish and kink side of things?
I do like the fetish weekend in Berlin, for fetish parties that is for me the best. I think it has everything, it’s the right time of year, Berlin is a nice city and you can go from super posh to street and its all well organised. I have been to New York and didn’t see much of the fetish scene but I get the impression its not really that big, but they do have some really good photographers there which I like. I like to session in Switzerland because they are consistant and will book and turn up and are really nice people, it all goes so smoothly and its hassle free sessioning. I do like to come back to England as well, I just think London could be with a bit of an injection of creativity when it comes to parties. I know the people that organise them put a lot of effort into it and I am not criticising them but we could use a bit more spice to get London back on the map for kink.
I am going to have to make sure I don’t tread on anybody’s toes by not naming someone.
There are quite a few Dommes in the States that I want to work with as I haven’t really worked with anyone over there yet, it would be good to go out there and shoot with a few. It’s hard to say if you haven’t met them though, I have only see them from videos, and you can’t really tell from a video if they will be nice to work with or not. Like anything else with life, some people it works well with, some people it doesn’t. We might be in similar lines of work but we all have different characters and sometimes there are clashes, although I just try to be professional.
Here in England there are quite a few I have worked with and lots on my website, but I really like Nikki Whiplash, I really like her style and her personality. Miss Miranda is also a personal friend of mine and I also like Madame Caramel although I haven’t shot with her too much. Those are the ones that have just popped into my head now but bear in mind I have done over 2000 videos, its like winning the Oscars and not mentioning someone in the thank you speech! In general I have been very lucky and done what I like to do with the people I like to do it with. There are quite a few people I would still like to shoot with in England but it’s finding the time.
I would like to film with Zara DuRose, we have met each other and I am sure we will work together. I also have a girl called Tina Kay and she is coming to Hungary when I am back there, she does more main stream porn but I know from her personality she is a Domme so will be interesting to see how that will work.
Myself, other people and I think I learn a lot from subs in sessions or from people I film with. I dont look at other peoples videos or work, I dont even watch my own.
Why is that?
Because it is in my head and I will do it at the time but when it’s filmed it’s filmed. I don’t edit it, everything is done for me, it is then posted online and for me the moment is gone and I don’t need to look at it again.
The inspiration can come from something simple like a picture I see or from a magazine. I dont go looking for things, but if I see something I like it can be an inspiration for something else.
I don’t really look at other peoples stuff, I sort of live in my own little world. If someone says I should check something out then I will but I am not a member of any sites or I don’t read anyone’s blog. It is not because it doesn’t interest me, but I see it and experience it everyday so I don’t really need to read or see it on videos. I just do my own thing and I know if I am not distracted by other people’s stuff then whatever I do is me.
Actually this is the one question I have no answer to because I don’t really believe in celebrities. I’m not very good with stars, celebs, to put it in an English way, I think its all bollocks.
If I had to pick someone maybe it would be funny to have the King of Belgium, but I am not sure how famous he actually is!
I like to travel and visit places, I like to cook and spend time with people that you really want to spend time with. I can enjoy a glass of wine in the pub or a meal in a really nice restaurant. I am happy with both.
I feel like I have the sort of life where I don’t crave a holiday away from it. After all the years of doing what I’m doing I feel I have created the kind of life that I want, I created my own prefect little world so I don’t feel the need to escape.
JD x x