English Mansion at Dungeon Manor

You know when you have two really good things and you combine them to make something special, like strawberries and cream or fish and chips or pizza and beer or coke and ummm, like two cokes, well I would add another one to the list – English Mansion and Dungeon Manor. Allow me to explain. (I realise all those examples are food and drink related, I was hungry whilst writing this.)

If you have read my blog before the chances are you will know what a huge fan of The English Mansion I am and how much I love to go and film with them when ever I am given the opportunity.  Also you might have seen that I visited Dungeon Manor recently and had a great couple of days there including a little bit of filming. So with that in mind you might be able to imagine I was a little excited about being asked if I would like to go to Dungeon Manor and film with English Mansion, two of my favourite Femdom places combined for one shoot!  Obviously that is a huge yes please, sign me up! If I had to walk there then I would have (luckily my car was working and turned out to be the better method of travel, but you get my point) and I’m very happy to say that shoot is exactly what I was doing a few weeks ago.

I arrived at Dungeon Manor the evening before filming to be greeted by Ely with a big hug and a house full of people. I also was able to say hello in person for the first time to Ely’s sub charlotte, who is lovely. The house was full of people, a mixture of Dommes and subs and turned out to be sub training for house submissives for Pedestal but things seemed to be winding down for the evening as I arrived. This was only my second visit to Dungeon Manor but I am already realising you never know what to expect when you arrive there.  There always seems to be something happening, it’s never dull and for someone that goes without kink for large periods of time its a fantastic feeling to immerse yourself into the kink lifestyle that surrounds the place. I personally love it and the feelings that come with that, plus Ely lives there so win win really!

The next day started with a relatively early start and the first thing planned was having our make up done by a professional make up artist.  I have to say I loved having this done and was really happy with it after she had finished…. dare I say it but I don’t think I looked half bad. The hardest part now will be when I next do my own make up again and it goes back to looking like a small child did it! Still, I asked quite a lot of questions while she was applying different things and hopefully took away a little bit of her vast knowledge.

The filming itself was very different to any previous filming I had done in the past for two reasons, the first being that it was a group thing with 5 Domme ladies, Mistress Sidonia, Mistress Evilyne, Governess Ely, Goddess Miss Kelly and Mistress Vivienne l’Amour. Then there was me, charlotte, squealy and tiffany as the subs. The second difference with this filming was the fact that all the scenes were linked and followed one after the other, which I really liked the idea of.

The rough outline of the story was that we were at a Femdom party at a household run by Domme women, squealy had arrived at the house after answering an advert for a sub but upon arrival discovered that men are not welcome in this house and that meant he would be feminised, whether he liked it or not. All the ladies looked amazing with a mixture of beautiful ball gowns and latex/rubber dresses. Mistress Vivienne l’Amour looked incredible in her lime green latex dress and I have to admit I caught myself a couple of times throughout the day just looking at her in her dress thinking ‘wow, stunning'; I just hope this wasn’t picked up on camera…! Also my foot and leg fetish seems to be growing and Goddess Miss Kelly happened to be wearing a dress which showed off her legs perfectly, and I luckily got to have a closer look at them later in the day, but I will get to that in a bit.

When the filming started I didn’t really have to do much to start with other than pour the occasional glass of champagne as it was charlotte showing squealy how to be the perfect sissy to begin with followed by squealy getting quite a bit of abuse from almost all the ladies. While this was happening It didn’t take long for me to realise where squealy got his name from and some of the noises he was making really made it difficult to keep a straight face, I have to say though seeing what was happening to him, rather him than me is all I will say. This section of filming finished with squealy in a cage and us other three subs lined up for a bit of anal play, and in my case a bit of shoe worship with Goddess Miss Kelly at the same time which turned out to be a recurring theme of the day I am very glad to say.

The next section of the filming was my favourite part of the day even if it was technically my punishment. I was being punished for two reasons, the first thing was for me being lippy and the second for me not cleaning properly, I know what you are thinking, that doesn’t sound like me at all………. Governess Ely and Goddess Miss Kelly were dishing out my punishment and they both used a mixture of hitty things including a hairbrush (which actually hurt like hell), a few paddles and the cane. It had been a while since I had had the cane and I really did enjoy being caned by two beautiful Dommes, and loved the fact the marks lasted for a good few days after I got home. On a side note this was also the first time I had been caned with a butt plug in, adds a little something extra, highly recommended if you are into that sort of thing ;)

The rest of the filming involved a smoking/spitting scene with all the Dommes and charlotte Then squealy (now feminised) was used by all the ladies again. To be honest I couldn’t tell you any details about what happened on the last scene even if I wanted to because the whole time I was worshipping both Governess Ely’s and Goddess Miss Kelly’s feet and at the time not much else mattered, despite squealy’s squeals of pain or pleasure or both??

So what did I miss, oh yeah there was also rope, chastity, pink bondage tape and I was given a new corset so all round another really fun day filming. A huge thank you goes out to everyone there for allowing me to be part of the day and especially to Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Sidonia for inviting me to come along and film, I really do enjoy it every time, thank you!

JD x x

Interview with Fetish Liza

I am deighted to be able to post my most recent interview on my blog, an interview with Fetish Liza. I have been a fan of Liza ever since I first saw her pictures online when I was first getting into kink all those years ago, and have wanted to meet her for just as long. So you can imagine my how happy I was when she said it would be possible to meet me in ‘sunny’ Swindon for a couple of hours for me to ask her a few questions. I have to say I am even more of a fan now we have met and found some of the topics of conversation incredibly interesting and eye opening. I really do hope that we are able to meet again soon and its safe to say I have never wanted to visit Germany or Hungray more than I do now!

I huge thank you to Liza for taking a couple of hours out of her very busy schedule and doing the interview with me. I hope you all enjoy reading it.

  • How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?

It started a long time ago, I was very sexually immature until I was about 18 years old when I went for my first and only piercing in a fetish and piercing shop. Downstairs they had clothes, shoes, rubber and latex and upstaies was the actual piercing shop. I got my piercing but I was more interested in the clothing downstairs so I started to save up my money to buy my first pair of shoes and bit by bit I started to build up a small collection of clothes. I then saw an advert in a magazine in Belgium for a photographer that was looking for models. I wasn’t really the type to just say yes I’m going to do this, this is cool. Actually I was wary of it, I thought I’m going to do this once and see how it goes. I went and did it and he was a really nice guy and the pictures were great and by the next day I already had another job and people started booking me. I got in contact with a photographer from the States and I started doing more professional shoots.

The person that got me more into real fetlish and domination was a guy called Tony Ward, a photographer from Philadelphia and he did shoots with me in black and white with things like strap ons etc. Although its not now, 15 years ago it was a big deal. I liked it and he said to me I should do this professionally, so I started to make a very small amateur website and it went ok so I took a bit of a risk by making my own websites and build it up bit by bit from there.

  • How did you first get into being a pro Domme, was it something that you always wanted to try, did it happen quite quickly after getting into kink?

It was actually the same guy, he was looking for a fetish model, someone with a dominant look. I was working as an operator in like a webcam house, so I would check the girls were doing their shifts etc and he picked me out of all the girls there, he said I looked very strict like a dominatrix. I wasnt really aware of it at that stage but thanks to him I started to explore. I never grew up thinking yes I am going to be a Domme, just bit by bit one thing led to another. Its very hard to say an exact date when it happened. I started with very soft fetishy stuff and have grown into different areas of domination, and there are still areas I would not do now, I think everyone has their areas of speciality or their interests. I dont have the feeling that I have to know everything and do everything, I do what I like to do, and maybe next year I will like to do something else and then I will do that. I dont feel the pressure to learn lots of things that are of no interest to me, for example rope bondage, I can’t even tie my shoe laces properly. I’m not ashamed to admit if I am not good at it, there are other people that are fabulous at it, so why would I learn it and not do it wholeheartedly when somebody else loves it and they are very good at it.

  • What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?

Meeting people and making them happy. I know a lot of people would say its the subs that have to make you happy but I think it works both ways, that is my main thing.

Is it mainly regulars that you see for sessions or mainly new people?

I think on each trip it is about 80% regular people and everytime I get new people coming in. I try to organise my trips a few months in advance but even with regulars it is not always possible for them to meet me if I am only there for a few days. So every trip I will have some new people and in general people will return, but also some people will see you once and then want to see someone else because they like the variety, which is also fine.

  • What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?

My best job is the one I have now because I have my own freedom. I don’t think I would want to do anything else. I only want to expand by adding new things like a fetish bed and breakfast and maybe even my own clothing brand.

My worst job is probably a dish washer at a highway restaurant. That was when I was 16 during school holidays, I was literally up to my elbows in all kinds of dirty stuff.

Well somethings haven’t changed.

Haha yes, I had to put my whole arm into the machine to get all the dirt out and without gloves, maybe thats why I love my gloves now.

  • How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?

Its best to email me, they can find my email address on my website. Some people also get in touch with me on twitter which is fine, but they would still have to email me. I dont give out any phone number until they have a confirmed booking which means they have paid a deposit, because I know from experience if you give out your phone number people will call you for different reasons. I just don’t have time for it, I am always travelling, working or sessioning so I just don’t have time to chit chat with everyone and I don’t mean that in a bad way. I think in an initial email they can put what they are looking for, interests, things they don’t want to do and a bit about their personality and that is actually all I need to know, the rest I will see on the day itself.

It is sad to say that there are a lot of time wasters and fakes in England, and London.

Is it worse in England than in other countries?

Yes, and it is only getting worse but that is probably because there are a lot of people that know about it and do it. In other countries the majority of people that contact me will end up sessioning with me whereas the majority that contact me in England don’t have any intention of seeing me. I get a lot of emails but I can stop the fakes by the way people write the emails and try to formulate how they want to session with you and the type of questions they ask. It is quite sad because there are still a lot of genuine people out there. Its a shame because the Dommes get annoyed and then maybe the next email is from someone genuine and it can be hard to not let the last one annoy you, you have make sure you treat every individual separately.

  • What can a client expect from you in their first visit to see you?

In general I will ask them a few things in an email and then when I see them the first time I take about 10 minutes just to talk with them. For some reason they are all very nervous and start knocking things over haha. So I will just sit down with them and help them calm down. Whether they travel by car or tube or whatever, they had a journey to come see me so they are not in the right frame of mind so the 5 or 10 mins helps them get their head together or to chill out. We will talk about their interests, health issues or if certain parts of the body are more fragile than others, then we will get on with it. In general I don’t use a safe word because I don’t think I need one, I just tell them keep it simple, if they want me to stop say stop, no green light or red light or anything, stop is effective. After the session they can shower and talk about about what they enjoyed and I just make sure they are not wandering around on a different cloud when they leave.

  • Other than real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do anything other than real time?

No, I have my membership websites, clip stores and building my own dungeon at home. I do private shoots so people can book me to be in a photo shoot or video but for their own private use. A bit like custom videos but they can actually be in it. I organise kinky trips, so it could be organising shoots for them, bringing them to parties, showing them where to shop and things like that. I travel a lot and don’t have time for phone or webcam.

Is it just because you don’t have time or is it also because you wouldn’t enjoy it?

I did webcam stuff about 15 years ago, it was still in the beginning and new and exciting but now it’s just not my thing, now my time is more important. If I have some free time I dont want to sit behind a webcam and I certainly don’t want to be on a phone. I think I do enough!

  • Are you looking for a personal sub?

I have two and a few people in my personal life that serve me once in a while, for example I have a slave in Switzerland that I will see a few times a year. I dont want this 24/7 grovelling, I can’t handle it. I don’t want to wake up every single day with someone sniffing at my feet. I think it’s a mind set, you can have your playful moments but I wouldn’t want someone in my dungeon living there for months on end because it would drive me nuts. I need my space and my privacy and I don’t want somebody there all the time.

  • I know you have a few websites, where can people find them and what other sites do you use?

I have three main sites

www.fetishliza.com

www.glovemansion.com

www.chateau-cuir.com

I am also working on two others called Dirty Dommes and Dirty Trans Dolls which will hopefully be up and running by May. Dirty Dommes will be all my Femdom stuff and Dirty Trans Dolls will be me with other Dommes, crossdressers, transvestites and rubber dolls. Whereas my fetishLiza site will be more a personal website and just me, it used to be all under one site but I think its better to separate it.

Also I use twitter and facebook and instagram.

www.facebook.com/TheOfficialFetishLiza

www.twitter.com/fetishliza

https://instagram.com/fetishliza

  • Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?

I’m not really an equipment type of person, I like the body contact. I like my outfits and my gloves etc but the things I use the most are strap ons of various sizes which I like because it keeps me in shape haha. I also like nipple clamps, a flogger and I like furniture like bondage beds or strap on bench. I dont really need that much equipment. For me the use of too much equipment bores me.

  • What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?

It really depends on my mood or where I am going or who I am wearing it with, and why I’m wearing it. In general I do like leather but my favourite is a latex catsuit, boots, gloves and corset, I can wear that for days on end. I have being doing it for 15 years so have quite a collection, a lot of people ask me how big is my closet, well my closet is the whole of the third floor, hundreds of things and hundreds of boots and shoes but I still end up wearing the same ones.

Do you have a favourite latex shop or store?

Yes I like Bondinage because the guy that makes it is a good friend of mine, he gets my measurements right. If there is something wrong he will fix it and he gives good after service which is not always the case. I think if your spend £500 on a catsuit of £300 on a corset and it rips then they should fix it and for free. I’m not going to give out the brand but I got a pair of gloves and they had a tiny hole in them and the company charged me to fix it, because of that I will not shop there again.

  • What are the best qualities you look for in a sub?

Honesty, I hate lies. Also loyalty, cleanliness and if I can earn their trust eventually.

  • If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?

If you want to session with me or book a shoot then keep it short and to the point on the first email. Just give me an introduction on who you are and what you are looking for and keep it short. I have a lot of people asking for custom videos and before I have even said yes they will send me three pages of writing, I don’t have time to read three pages! I will know more about a person talking to them on the phone for 5 or 10 minutes then reading what they wrote down for pages and pages in emails.

  • What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?

I have never had anyone make any mistakes during or after, I don’t think I would session with anyone that made a mistake before so session wise we are fine. If I meet them I have already filtered them.

One thing I can’t stand it is when peple send me repetitive messages. I will answer a message and then they will send me each question in a different message so one day I will have 50 emails from one person. Just put it in one email and keep it short and to the point. As I get so many emails every day I need to know who is who, I’m very good at that but I can’t attach 50 emails in my brain to this person or that person, so I always say reply to each email so I can see the whole conversation.

Another thing is assuming I will do certain things, because I do certain things in videos doesn’t mean I will do it in sessions. Sessions, videos, real life, everything is different.

I think in all the years I have sessioned I have only had a few people that cancelled last min, but because I ask for a deposit which is none refundable I have already covered myself. People always forget that I come from a different country and have a suitcase and a bag and I will bring rubber, boots, leather in that. I have no problem with someone asking for me to wear something they have seen in the video but people forget I have to drag it all round the airport and if it’s cancelled I’m doing that for nothing and that pisses me off. Luckily that doesnt happen often.

  • How do you prepare for a session or a scene to get into Domme head space? Do you have to?

Generally I don’t really book that many people in a day. Even though I am a pro Domme and I do sessions its not my main job, when I come over I don’t have to do a certain amount of sessions to cover costs and basically pay bills from it. I do the sessions with the people I think it will be fun with and there are quite a few that I do say no I don’t think this is going to work.

If I have a session on that day I will just check in the morning if I have the time right and send them a message where possible. I will prepare my outfit, make sure the dungeon is clean and ready and read up about who they are and that’s it, the rest comes naturally. I dont have to think or plan an order, I just know their certain interests and go with that. Everything else depends on body language on the day.

I think I am the same person now as I would be if I was in a dungeon, I can be sweet, I can laugh and don’t think you have to take it too seriously but if you piss me off you will know about it.

  • Do you have a different approach to male/female subs? Do you see female subs?cd?

I very rarely have female subs, I do sometimes have some couples but I don’t think I treat them any differently, I am always the same. I don’t really think about it. I don’t really see many crossdressers or TVs in sessions, I think for some reason I can be still quite taboo, but I’m not going to judge anyone, putting your wig on is just as normal as putting on your rubber shorts or your gimp mask to me, I have been doing this for 15 years they should be relaxed about it with me.

  • I know you travel a lot with your work, do you notice a difference in the fetish scene in different countries?

I think the fetish scene in each country is very different, even the word fetish is different. If you look at Europe fetish mens rubber, leather and dungeons and it is a lot about outfits whereas in the states it can be different, it can be like an ass fetish. I think in every country fetish, kink and bdsm can be seen differently.k

Do you have a favourite country for the fetish and kink side of things?

I do like the fetish weekend in Berlin, for fetish parties that is for me the best. I think it has everything, it’s the right time of year, Berlin is a nice city and you can go from super posh to street and its all well organised. I have been to New York and didn’t see much of the fetish scene but I get the impression its not really that big, but they do have some really good photographers there which I like. I like to session in Switzerland because they are consistant and will book and turn up and are really nice people, it all goes so smoothly and its hassle free sessioning. I do like to come back to England as well, I just think London could be with a bit of an injection of creativity when it comes to parties. I know the people that organise them put a lot of effort into it and I am not criticising them but we could use a bit more spice to get London back on the map for kink.

  • Who would you most like to work with that you haven’t had the opportunity to do so yet, or who would you love to work with again?

I am going to have to make sure I don’t tread on anybody’s toes by not naming someone.

There are quite a few Dommes in the States that I want to work with as I haven’t really worked with anyone over there yet, it would be good to go out there and shoot with a few. It’s hard to say if you haven’t met them though, I have only see them from videos, and you can’t really tell from a video if they will be nice to work with or not. Like anything else with life, some people it works well with, some people it doesn’t. We might be in similar lines of work but we all have different characters and sometimes there are clashes, although I just try to be professional.

Here in England there are quite a few I have worked with and lots on my website, but I really like Nikki Whiplash, I really like her style and her personality. Miss Miranda is also a personal friend of mine and I also like Madame Caramel although I haven’t shot with her too much. Those are the ones that have just popped into my head now but bear in mind I have done over 2000 videos, its like winning the Oscars and not mentioning someone in the thank you speech! In general I have been very lucky and done what I like to do with the people I like to do it with. There are quite a few people I would still like to shoot with in England but it’s finding the time.

I would like to film with Zara DuRose, we have met each other and I am sure we will work together. I also have a girl called Tina Kay and she is coming to Hungary when I am back there, she does more main stream porn but I know from her personality she is a Domme so will be interesting to see how that will work.

  • Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?

Myself, other people and I think I learn a lot from subs in sessions or from people I film with. I dont look at other peoples videos or work, I dont even watch my own.

Why is that?

Because it is in my head and I will do it at the time but when it’s filmed it’s filmed. I don’t edit it, everything is done for me, it is then posted online and for me the moment is gone and I don’t need to look at it again.

The inspiration can come from something simple like a picture I see or from a magazine. I dont go looking for things, but if I see something I like it can be an inspiration for something else.

  • What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?

I don’t really look at other peoples stuff, I sort of live in my own little world. If someone says I should check something out then I will but I am not a member of any sites or I don’t read anyone’s blog. It is not because it doesn’t interest me, but I see it and experience it everyday so I don’t really need to read or see it on videos. I just do my own thing and I know if I am not distracted by other people’s stuff then whatever I do is me.

  • If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?

Actually this is the one question I have no answer to because I don’t really believe in celebrities. I’m not very good with stars, celebs, to put it in an English way, I think its all bollocks.

If I had to pick someone maybe it would be funny to have the King of Belgium, but I am not sure how famous he actually is!

  • What are some of you favourite things to do away from bdsm?

Sleep!

I like to travel and visit places, I like to cook and spend time with people that you really want to spend time with. I can enjoy a glass of wine in the pub or a meal in a really nice restaurant. I am happy with both.

I feel like I have the sort of life where I don’t crave a holiday away from it. After all the years of doing what I’m doing I feel I have created the kind of life that I want, I created my own prefect little world so I don’t feel the need to escape.

JD x x

NOW! That’s what I call BDSM

You know when you have this great ‘idea’ that you get all excited about and are convinced it is your own, only to find out actually you saw a similar thing somewhere else and just forgot about it. Well I had this idea to create a blog post with a list of songs relating to kink, only to find out it had been done before. Mistress Sidonia had done a few posts on her English Mansion blog of different songs relating to different kinks and I had seen one of them a while ago but must have forgotten. By the time I had realised that’s where the idea came from I had already thought of my ‘clever’ title and made my ‘clever’ picture so it was too late to turn back! Im sure Mistress Sidonia wont mind me putting my twist of the same thing…

So to make my list the song had to reflect some part of kink whether thats femdom, crossdressing, CP etc. Also, importantly I had to like the song! (Fair to say Rihanna only just scraped in) Some of these links to kink are far more obvious than others, and some of them will probably be just how I have chosen to interpret the song, but music meanings are always a personal thing so dont expect to like or agree with all 14 songs.

I have added the artist and song title, a lyrics I think helps show why its on the list and because im extra kind I have added the video so you can have a listen and decide for yourself if you agree and especially if the less obvious ones should have have the cut.

So here is the very first NOW! That’s what I call BDSM album.

  • The Naked and Famous – Spank

‘There are specific things
That I have to do
Day to day just to keep it at bay
You wouldn’t believe it if you knew

  • Hozier – Take me to Church

‘She tells me “Worship in the bedroom”
The only heaven I’ll be sent to
Is when I’m alone with you’

  • The Offspring – I want you Bad

‘I want you 
All tattooed
I want you bad
Complete me
Mistreat me
Want you to be bad

  • The kinks – Lola

‘Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It’s a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for Lola’

  • Depeche Mode – Master and servent

‘Domination’s the name of the game
In bed or in life
They’re both just the same
Except in one you’re fulfilled
At the end of the

  • Velvet Underground – Venus in Furs

‘Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather
Shiny leather in the dark
Tongue of thongs, the belt that does await you
Strike, dear mistress, and cure his heart’

  • Blur – Girls and Boys

‘Girls who are boys
Who like boys to be girls
Who do boys like they’re girls
Who do girls like they’re boys’

  • Madona – Erotica

‘Once you put your hand in the flame
You can never be the same
There’s a certain satisfaction
In a little bit of pain’

  • Nina Simone – I put a Spell on You

‘I put a spell on you
Because you’re mine
You’re mine’

  • Goldfrapp – Strict Machine

‘I get high on a buzz, then a rush
When I’m plugged in u
I connect when I’m flush
U get love when told what to do’

  • Soft Cell – Sex Dwarf

‘I would like you on a long black leash
You can bring me all the things I need’

  • Rihanna – S&M

‘Sticks and stones
May break my bones
But chains and whips
Excite me’

  • NIN – Closer

‘You let me violate you, you let me desecrate you
You let me penetrate you, you let me complicate you’

  • Elbow – An Audience with the pope

‘I have an audience with the Pope
And I’m saving the world at eight
But if she says she needs me, she says she needs me
Everybody’s going to have to wait’

If you have reached this far and are thinking ‘how the hell is this song not on the list’ feel free to add a comment and let me know which songs should have been included.

JD x x

Happy Easter.

Keeping with ‘tradition’ as it is Easter that means only one thing, a badly (this year I would go as far as saying very badly) edited picture of myself with some bunny ears added!

Happy Easter

So all that leaves me to do is to say remember there is no such thing as too much chocolate and to wish everyone a happy Easter and hope everyone enjoys the long weekend!

JD x x

Interview with Mistress Cara Sutra

It is with great pleasure that I am able to post my latest interview on my blog and I am very happy to be able to say it is with Mistress Cara Sutra. For those of you that don’t know Cara Sutra, she is lifestyle Domme but also a hugely popular blogger, sex toy reviewer, writer, product developer and multiple award winner.

I have been reading her blog since I began blogging and its not just the excellent and well written blog posts that keeps me going back for more but it is the varitey of topics and types of post that I really enjoy reading. If you have not seen the blog I couldn’t recommend it enough, infact you can find Cara Sutra’s blog here so go and have a look right now!

As always I hope you enjoy the read and a huge thank you to Mistress Cara Sutra for allowing me to do the interview.

  • How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?

It’s always been an interest, even before I really knew what it was. I was being nosy at my grandmother’s house as a young child and found a lot of shiny clothes, chains and things I didn’t recognise in her wardrobe, along with some mail order catalogues for the same sort of items. I had no idea why she had such different looking clothing and accessories in her wardrobe but something about it appealed.
In my late teens I left home and moved country, living in Ireland for a few years. There, away from family and other pressures, I was free to explore what I really wanted in life, sex and relationships. Going to mainstream clubs turned into going to fetish clubs, and my first ‘in’ to the scene was as a Pro-Domme after being requested to Dominate some men. I guess natural Dominance shines through. This never felt quite right for me though and it took many years before I learned about Lifestyle Domination and exactly who and what I was. It took longer still to realise that just because I enjoy bondage it doesn’t lessen my Dominant nature in any way, it just means I have a wide range of interests.

  • Have you ever considered going down the line of being a Pro Domme. if so what has stopped you?

I have and I did. It’s something I returned to about 8-9 years ago but have since resigned from. I’m not a Pro-Domme. I returned to it after being thoroughly fed up with the amount of time wasters and losers that approached me, reasoning that if I was going to spend time talking to those types I may as well get paid for my time and any actions that I visit upon them. It doesn’t feel very nice to me though and I don’t like to feel as though my Dominance is paid for by the hour or session.
That’s not to say there’s anything wrong with Pro Domination, it’s just not my personal calling. I have my Pro Domme friends and I really admire and respect them for earning a living in this way. They must have absolutely unbounded patience!
After my return to Pro 8-9 years ago I soon left it again, for the last time. It’s not for me. I can’t Dominate naturally in return for money per hour or session. I earn my income through my separate businesses (adult writer and marketer, and product developer) and enjoy Lifestyle Domination without any pressure or obligations.

  • What is your favourite thing about being Domme?

When I find a slave who (almost) matches my intelligence, creativity, perversion and corresponding need for fulfilment in a D/s relationship. Having an exciting muse. Also, plenty of sexy high heels coming to the door on a regular basis doesn’t hurt.

  • I read that you only see subs that are older than 30, why is that?

I’ve spoken to thousands of submissive men in my time and I have never spoken to one under the age of 30 who is mature enough or experienced enough in life to really fulfil what i want from a sub. It takes a while for the male ego and pride in youth to be quelled into the realisation of what submission is, the importance of and ways to please a Mistress, and that it’s not all about their penis and how to excite it. As shocking as that may be.

  • Are you looking for a submissive at the moment? Do you have live in submissives?

I don’t look for submissives, they look for me.

My longest serving slave was live-in but he annoyed me so much I threw him out last spring. He bought a house across the road.

  • Other than real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do anything other than real time?

Any submissive can serve by being useful to my life. I mean actually useful, not talking about ‘I can entertain you on webcam’ or ‘I can write your name on my penis’. Things that are helpful to ME. Write me fantastic content I can put on my websites. Offer your skills and services such as accounting, business acumen or referrals. Be a taxi service. Buy my groceries. Pay my credit card. That type of thing and a lot more.

Some of these will need to be done face to face, others can be done from afar. It all depends how much the so-called submissive actually wants to serve me and how much they trust that this will be a two-way street. Be what I want and I will give you what you want. Eventually.

So yes – distance service is possible but I would always want to work towards a point where we can at least meet up. These boots won’t lick themselves clean.

  • I know that you have more than one website, where can people find these?

My Mistress website is at MistressCaraSutra.co.uk.

My day-to-day business is run from the award winning mainstream sexuality website CaraSutra.co.uk.

  • Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?

My favourite fetish accessory to use on a submissive is a long tailed flogger. Such versatility and the luxurious types are so beautifully weighted.

My favourite sex toys are the Doxy Massager and the iGino One – this was covered in the Daily Mail piece about me last year.

  • What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?

I find PVC is easy and comfortable to wear, but leather is supremely gorgeous. I’m very traditional like that.
I don’t wear latex much, it’s hot, difficult to get into and keep shiny and makes me feel somewhat like a black pudding.

  • What is your favourite type of play during a session, or favourite activities?

I love male chastity, boot and heel worship, foot worship, flogging and corporal punishment, humiliation (public, verbal or both) and cuckoldry.

  • What are the best qualities you look for in a sub?

Intelligence, creativity, devotion, honesty, obedience, submission.

  • If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?

To honestly answer this question: What are you serving, the Mistress or your fantasies? Once you’ve gone away and worked it out, get back to me.

  • What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?

They think it’s all about what they want.
They lie.
They underestimate me.

  • How do you prepare for a session or a scene to get into Domme headspace? Do you have to?

Being Dominant is a natural part of me. I’ve lived with my slave for years in the past. It’s something that’s always there, just tempered for the situation and perhaps family or vanillas around. If I have an actual session taking place then I may muse over the order of events and what I want to do, but other than that I don’t have to ‘get into’ a Dominant frame of mind. It’s just part of me.

  • Do you have a different approach to male/female subs? Do you see female subs?cd?

Yes. I find that women submit very differently, if at all, It’s much more sexual based (actively sexual rather than the denial of it). Female submissives tend to merge into female lovers. Male submissives are moulded into chaste, cuckolded slaves who are lucky to even get to kiss my boots or a gloved hand.

I’m not interested in cross dressing submissives or sissies, I have found that this submission tends to be simply dressing up while wanting a female audience and it’s not about me, it’s about them. Not my kink.

  • I know you have a big interest in chastity, what is it about chastity that you like?

The penis and balls are central to the man’s ego and pride. Our culture is very phallo-centric, with sexual references in the media crafted to interest the penis or have sex relating to it in some way. Sex sells, after all. Alpha males derive pride from their cock and what they do with it.  Removing the ability to even touch their own penis for pleasure never mind fuck with it is a great source of pleasure to me, because it forces the submissive to act in a different way. I find a chaste male acts more deferentially to me, is quick to respond and eager to please. With this penis pride out of the way we can get to what is really important, pleasing me in other ways than with their cock, which I have no interest in on submissive men. Of course their locked cock is torment for them, which I enjoy teasing about and taking advantage of by taunting with keys and cuckoldry whether with them present or simply telling them about my sex life.

A man in chastity is more focussed on me and keeping me happy.

  • I’m a big fan of your blog, what made you start blogging? How long have you been doing the blog?

Depends which one you mean! My Mistress website has not been running as long as CaraSutra.co.uk. I started blogging originally to share my sexual antics and reviews of sex toys. That was approximately 8 years ago, to my memory.

  • Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?

Apart from my own imagination, my muses are my slaves and their weaknesses. I also read a lot of erotic fiction and the fantasies that chastity often evokes in my submissives. It’s a snowball effect of sexual denial and torment for them, which feeds my cruelty and therefore my imagination. I also just like getting a good thorough boot licking and then doling out some hefty punishment on their backside which leaves marks for weeks.

  • What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?

I don’t have one. I find Fetlife is useful for community but it has its share of problem members, fantasists and timewasters. YourDominatrix is great and I love UberKinky for their products and their blog.

  • If you could have one male and one female celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?

Do they have to be real people? I’d love to lock Christian Grey in a chastity device, beat his ass black and blue then shove jiggle balls where the sun doesn’t shine.
If we’re talking real people, then Richard Branson so I could co-own Necker Island (swoon) and Helen George from Call the Midwife because she’s pretty, blonde and makes parts of me melt in delicious ways.

  • What are some of your favourite things to do away from BDSM?

I’m a sexual health and pleasure columnist as well as a sex toy tester. I have a family; male partner who is also Dominant as well as two sons. I love shopping, the theatre, wining and dining and I have a pretty serious hotel fetish. I enjoy photography, reading, late night alcohol-induced philosophy and leaving my fisting dildo hanging out of the duvet for my cleaner to find.

JD x x

30 facts about me

I know what you were thinking, wouldn’t it be great if you could see a list of random facts about my dressing, my kink and every day things all nicely listed in a blog post, well good news, thats exactly what I have gone and done!

For those that know me a lot of these will not be a surprise but I dont think anyone knew all of these before so hopefully you find it mixture of both random and interesting things about yours truly.

30 Facts About Me (I know there is 31, but thats because one of them isnt actually a fact about me)

  1. I Didn’t get my first pair of heels and wig till I was 23 and I still have them both.

  1. I’m addicted to coke a cola

  1. I have never been in a relationship for longer than a year.

  1. I really don’t like it when someone refers to me as a ‘sissy’.

  1. I absolutely love thunder storms and will always stay up to watch them at night, especially if by the sea.

  1. If I have met someone and they know me in ‘boy mode’ then I don’t actually like being called jess when not dressed up.

  1. I’m a scientist in my day job.

  1. I still rarely get fully dressed up, on average its about twice a month.

  1. I have never been head over heels in love.

  1. I can juggle.

  1. My favourite three kinks in no particular order are rope, bondage and spanking.

  1. It took me about 6 months before I started to enjoy blogging, however,  not surprisingly now I am a big fan.

  1. I don’t like tomato ketchup.

  1. I am a sucker for a girl with blonde hair and blue eyes.

  1. I’m 28.

  1. I am a big football fan and support Manchester United.

  1. I think star signs and horror scopes are just ridiculous, I don’t understand why anyone takes any notice of them.

  1. My favourite fruit is an orange but I will often have something else because peeling all that white crap off is a pain in the arse!

  1. I still find it strange that some people know me only as Jess!

  1. If I was to have one saying about how I have gone about exploring kink then it would be ‘If you don’t ask, you don’t get’.

  1. All but one of these facts are true….

  1. I have quite a few fantasies about spanking and tying up other people. I have actually given it a go and did really enjoy it.

  1. I am in no way superstitious, but my favourite number is number 11 (bonus points if you can work out why)

  1. I consider myself to have very good taste in music but I have a huge soft spot for Taylor swift.

  1. I really like being in front of the camera when dressed up but in ‘boy mode’ I will actively shy away from it.

  1. My favourite type of film or TV programme involves an end of the world apocalypse type thing, ideally zombie related.

  1. I still struggle with a lot of self confidence issues around dressing and how I look. Its something that crosses my mind almost every time I get dressed up.

  1. 90% of my blogging is done in the early hours of the morning.

  1. If I was to go to the pub for one drink (or you wanted to order me a drink) then it would be a Ale, most probably an IPA. If I was out for the whole night then my drink of choice would be Gin.

  1. My favourite country in the world is New Zealand and I have spend a total of 8 months there.

  1. I’m slightly scared of foxes.

JD x x

Interview with Megara Furie

Im very pleased to be able to post my latest interview on my blog with a Domme I have known about since getting into kink but never had the opportunity to chat to until recently, and that Domme is none other that Megara Furie. Incase people don’t know Megara Furie is a professional Domme based in Scotland in Glasgow and works from her own Dungeon/studio but also travels both within the UK and abroad. It was a real pleasure being able to do this interview and for me what stood out so much was her love for what she does and how passionate she is about kink, it really is infectious! I was a big fan of Megara Furie form afar before doing this interview but now I have been able to chat with her for a little while, I am even more of a fan, she is a passionate, stunning, talented Domme that truly loves what she does, what more could a sub ask for.

So a huge thank you goes out to Megara for doing this with me and I hope you all enjoy the read.

  • How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?

I have always been interested in it and have always liked the alternative scene. When I was young I was very into the vampire and goth thing and I guess with the vampire thing there is a power thing there, females biting males and enticing them in, using that against them. I always thought that was very cool, I wanted to be that powerful, to have that power over guys.

I have never been a vanilla person, that just didn’t make sense to me. Then when I first started experimenting and getting interested in sex, I can remember wanting to tie up my boyfriends. I was living with a guy for about four years and I remember experimenting together but I didn’t know that these things had names, it was just normal for us. One night we were sitting watching tv and I turned to him and said I don’t know where this is coming from but I want to pee on you and he just said “yeah ok, you can pee on me then.” The next time we had sex I told him to get in the bath and we did just that and it was exhilarating knowing that he was beneath me and was willing to do this for me. That sort of sparked my interest and we experimented with toys and a few things from there. I realised I did have a power and a control over him and I liked it, we didn’t have a formal discussion about it, it was very organic and we just sort of fell into our roles with me being in control. I have never been a vanilla person.

  • ·How did you first get in being a Pro Domme, was it something that you always wanted to try, did it happen quite quickly after getting into kink?

After things finished with that boyfriend I then decided to go and dance as a stripper and again that fed the whole power dynamic. Although people talk about strippers or lap dancers as being exploited or they get a bad name for it, the reality is very different. We would sit in the changing rooms and talk about the guys down stairs and maybe if I have taken a few dances off a guy but I know he has xyz in his wallet, or if a guy came in asking for sex we would go over and absolutely wind him up, take his money off his and then just leave him rinsed and alone at the end of the night, we were exploiting them. I love knowing I have someone right around my little finger. I wasn’t in it for attention or any drug problems or anything, I did it because I enjoyed it, I was fucking good at it and I loved the power struggle. I knew how to get what I wanted from guys.

It was an opportunity to make money, most of my dances were VIPs so I was guaranteed £200 for an hour. What I noticed after a while was that I tended to get guys that wanted something alternative off me. I had a guy that wanted to just see me take my shoes on and off and I would charge him more for that because he knew no one else in that club would do it. I used to remind him of that and get into his head about it, he became one of my regulars. I had another guy and all he wanted me to do was knee him in the balls for two hours, so I would still be dancing because of the cameras but every time I turned a certain way I would slam a knee or a foot into his balls, I think I even head butted him once.

One night I was speaking this a guy and there was someone on stage getting whipped or spanked, I said to the guy something about how I would love to do that for a living and he told me there was a Domme looking for someone to train so he gave me her details and I got in contact and she took me on. Within a few months I was so busy I gave up dancing all together.

Did you know much about the BDSM world when you first went to see the Domme?

Only what I had done in my personal life but she took me under her wing and showed me things that filled in the gaps, she knew I was quite imaginative and after one session she told me I would be just fine.

Whats her name, is she still working as a Domme?

Mistress Lilith, yes she still is, she is in Glasgow. She is excellent!

Then after about one year I set up my own place and it has taken about three years for me to be happy with the place and I’m still continuously adding to it. I’m just about to add an extra room which means it will have two play spaces, one will be quite light and more geared towards softer play and role-play. The other will be the room with the suspension and the more hardcore things like the bondage and the CP stuff.

To get your own place after a year seems very quick

I knew that I loved what I was doing and that I could travel with it but I also knew the responsibilities it came with like doing my taxes and all the admin, advertising etc, I’m a very organised person.

  • What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?

It’s peoples reactions, it doesn’t matter so much what activity I’m doing with a person as long as they are reacting to me and I can see I am having a positive reaction with them and that’s what drives me. That is what gets me through doing the admin and the accounts and the advertising. Doing all these things means I can get sessions in, create an imaginative session for someone then watch their reactions, I get a buzz out of that.

I know for some people coming to see me could be a massive stress relief or the only time they can let someone just take over, its almost like they can have a holiday in their own heads which is great to see. I like to build relationships with people as well and I generally see people more than once, they do tend to come back.

That’s always a good sign.

Yes, everything builds and gets better as that relationship builds.

  • What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?

I have never had a bad job, oh actually yes I have. I worked for all of two weeks in a chip shop and the women that worked there was a rude, obnoxious, vile person and her hygiene was disgusting. She had me in the back working, which I don’t mind because cooking is one thing that relaxes me. She used to walk in wearing flip flop sandals and had this athlete foot thing which she was constantly itching and then she would touch the food and it used to infuriate me! She would also speak to me in such a bad way, one day I was 5 mins late because of my bus and I had rang in to let them know but don’t think the message got passed on. When I arrived she told me she was docking me an hour and I basically told her “no, you’re not” and told her to shove her job up her arse, threw my apron down and just walked out. I hated that place.

Worse job but a great way to leave.

Spectacular fashion, as always.

My best job is hard to pick, I absolutely adored being a dancer, I would walk into work and be told how beautiful I was. Then I would leave at the end of the night with money in my purse. I also traveled with it and was able to dance in other countries, it got me used to the lifestyle I can enjoy now.

  • How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?

They can either call or email because that’s polite. There is a contact form on both of my websites and I do not take requests via twitter or Facebook, I like to speak to someone on the phone so I can get a feel for them and have a chat about what they are into, and I think hearing each others voices builds an initial connection. I find a lot of the people that try via twitter or Facebook are time wasters as well, they obviously haven’t taken the time to go to my website and read my protocol section, it’s disrespectful. You would think they would value themselves a little bit more by doing a little bit of research on who they were coming to see.

I have heard a lot of stories about guys that have been to see ‘pop up’ Dommes who maybe have heard about the scene recently because its been more published in the media and think I could do that, but they have not had any training. They think it’s just about yelling at someone, beating them up and taking money off them – it’s really not, it’s a far more sophisticated art than that. If it was that easy then everyone would be doing it. You have to give a shit about what you are doing and who you are seeing and also one thing you can not ever be is a man hater and still be successful at this job – I am such a strong believer in that. This requires a genuine understanding of guys and a concern for their safety. If you are a man hater you are not going to want to even try to give them the best session they can have when they come to see you and a bad first session could put someone off the whole thing for life.

  • What can a client expect from you in their first session?

It depends what they ask for. Depends on how much we have spoken before hand, but I tend to go semi light on them so I can judge their reactions and then see if we can push some boundaries. If we can push some boundaries in the first session then by all means I will, but the first session is more about it being the first real opportunity to build trust with that person. I like to start with a chat and as it’s not a strict revolving door policy with me, there is always time before and time after to have a chat or for some after care. It’s really about getting to know that person.

There is one thing I will teach every single sub when they arrive and it’s called a four point count. It’s four positions numbered 1-4 which I expect a sub to be able to get into without me explaining it every single time. It sets the first bit of protocol for them to follow but I also like to have a bit of fun with it as well.

So, basically, I like to have a chat with them and build some trust then show them the four point count and then always have a chat at the end to find out what went well, if there was anything I could do to make it better and what expectations they might have for the next time they come and visit.

  • Other that real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do anything other than real time?

I am a massive real time person, I’m a real touchy feely person. I like being able to see someone in the flesh. I don’t see the point of being on webcam and someone asking for something like foot worship – you can’t feel them, touch them or smell them, I just feel a bit silly doing that. I would much rather they come and see me. I don’t do phone either because I could be telling someone to do something but how can I monitor that if just on the phone?

The only thing I actually do is some domination through twitter, where I will set a sub a task and they will go off and do it and we play a bit off their reactions and there is a bit of banter. I have this sub and I know when he is being cheeky he really wants to be FinDommed and to be told that for his cheek he should go and buy this or that. I have actually made up his very own Wish list that only he can see, it’s called his fuck up list. Every time he is cheeky it’s his saving grace, I have a stern word with him and he goes straight to the list and that’s really his payment for the session. He is very generous and very kind with it, if I’m honest I am not really one for FinDomme and don’t like to just take money without working for it. So I give him the tasks and he has his list and he can decide what items from the list to get depending on the appropriate level of apology. He is extremely good and he is making an effort to come over to Scotland to see me, so I can’t complain.

That is the main reason I could see cam as something that could work, if they are a long away from you

I do tour so they should get into contact with me and ask if there is any chance I could visit their country and once I know there is interest then I start doing research and put the feelers out and see if I can get any more sessions and if I can make it worth my while. I do tend to charge a bit extra to cover extra costs like hotels and hiring a dungeon etc. I have been extremely lucky with travel I have been to New York, LA, Dominican republic, Barcelona, Germany, Poland. It’s great, I love the fact that I am able to travel.

  • Are you looking for a personal sub?

I have personal subs, not personal as in intimate but personal as in they do jobs for me and it’s not a paid basis, but they will gift me. They get to work quite closely with me but these are subs I have had for a long time. I would never allow or even entertain the idea of a personal sub that I hadn’t known for at least a year and even then it would be on a trial basis because you are letting them into your personal life. I couldn’t consider collaring someone before then.

Its a big commitment from both I think.

It is a massive thing for them and it’s obviously a massive thing for me. They are committing to see me and only me, you wouldn’t ask someone to be in a serious relationship or ask them to marry after only a month of knowing them. You need to get to know them and find out what their strengths are and what their faults are etc and then you can start to really connect.

  • What’s your personal website and which others do you use?

I have two personal sites and I also use instrgram, twitter and Facebook. I do have a Fetlife profile but hardly ever use it, I would do so if they had an app for it though.

http://www.mistressglasgow.co.uk/

http://www.mistressmegara.com/

Instagram @mistressglasgow

Twitter @megarafurie

Facebook Megara Furie

Fetlife megarafurie

  •  Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?

I would say my favourite toy would be the tawse, I love that something so unassuming can cause so much pain. I also love playing with rope as well. I always find when I’m tying someone I feel very relaxed. I sort of get lost in time and I like making it look all pretty. It’s very imitate.

  • What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?

It depends on what I’m doing. I’m a big fan of office wear because I’m comfortable in it, a nice skirt and a shirt with possibly a corset over it. I do also love latex but it can be so time consuming to get it on and off. That can sometimes put me off.

  • What is your favourite type of play during a session, or favourite
    activities?

I’m a massive reaction person, for example I am a massive fan of ball busting, but if I am kicking someone in the balls and they are just pan faced then it removes all the enjoyment for me. However one thing I had hardly ever be bothered with is trampling as it just bores me so much, but if I am doing some trampling with someone and they are really into it and they are giving me feedback and there are reactions there, then it can become the best session in the world. Its all about feeding off the other person and in turn them feeding off of you.

I also like to role-play but I have done some role-plays where someone has given this whole detailed scenario which I have done my best to get my teeth into. I will look the part and will set the scene and remember all the little pointers, because sometimes it can be the little triggers that excites them and if you leave that out it could ruin the whole session. Then they turn up and they just seem to hold back with me and I’m role-playing by myself. That’s the whole reaction thing, I need the reactions from them to make it a great role-play.

  • What are the best qualities you look for in a sub?

Qualities in a sub I look for are manners, you don’t have to be anything special just have genuine common sense and use manners that you would use on a day to day basis to show that you are not a dick of a human being. I am courteous and kind and that is what I expect a sub to be as well. They should just be courteous, polite – everything else can be trained, as long as they are open and receptive to learning. The other important thing is that they need to show up for sessions both physically and mentally and be ready to let themselves go and give me the reactions that I’m looking for, do that and then everyone will be happy.

  • If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?

Do your research because that is the first stage where things could go wrong. Doing your research minimises the chance of coming into contact with someone that isn’t a true professional. You are putting your body into someone else’s hands so you need to make sure it is the right person. Find out what they are into, how they treat subs, check if they have twitter or a website, have a look if it is well written, does it look professional etc. Check what services they offer, is it what you would expect from a Domme? Are they actually a Domme or an escort with a whip? The analogy I tend to use is the difference between a hooker and a Domme is the difference between a car salesman and a mechanic, we both deal with roughly the same thing, one is highly skilled while the other gets fucked in the arse occasionally

The luxury of researching a Domme is there is normally a vast amount of information out there about the person, if there isn’t then find someone else.

  • What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?

Inappropriate first contact, it could be a text or through twitter or at a ridiculous time of day, or written in text speak or they call me babe. Any of those things mean you get eliminated. Also giving me a list of your vital statistics makes no fucking difference, it is a session not a date.

Another is over familiarity, I am quite a jokey person and I like to put people at ease but there is a line that they should not cross. Recently I had a sub call me mate and I had to stop him and tell him yes we have a connection but it is a strictly Domme sub connection, I am not your mate.

My third would be asking me out, we might have a laugh and get on like a house on fire and have a real connection during a session but that is where it ends. I care about their well being, I do want to see them again but only on that professional basis. It has to remain professional, just don’t do it, asking me is just embarrassing and awkward for everyone.

  • Do you have a different approach to male/female subs? Do you see female subs or crossdressers?

I don’t generally see female subs but I think if I did they are much more emotional creatures so you have to be more delicate where emotions are concerned. I do believe that women have a much higher pain threshold though, women are intrinsically strong and I do have a lot of respect for women that choose to sub. I think women will be able to lose themselves a lot easier because we are used to being able to express our emotions.

And how about crossdressers?

I treat everyone on an individual basis so it really just depends what they are coming to me for. There is no off the rack session – everyone is different.

  • What made you pick the name Megara Furie, where does the name come from?

Megara Furie comes from Greek mythology, there were three Erinnyes which were formed from drops of blood from Uranus and send down to Earth to basically find men that had done wrong in their lives and punish them accordingly. They didn’t kill them but caused them so much pain and suffering that they would try to kill themselves. There were three Furie sisters, Megara, Alecto and Tisiphone. I chose Megara because I wanted alliteration in name with Mistress Megara. If you have ever seen the Disney Hercules film then Megara Furie is in that as well, she is the sassy one!

Is it true that you don’t like being called Mistress and much prefer Megara Furie?

When I first started I had people calling me Mistress and I hated it, it made me feel old. I told everyone to call me Megara rather than Mistress so yes that is very true.

  • Your ‘Port-a-Domme’ looks like a very exciting idea, how does that work and could you give some examples of the sort of thing you have done with it?

I generally only do this with people I have seen before but I have equipment that folds away and can put into my car so if I have any clients who cant leave the house for any reason or that have only a short period of time in a hotel then I can go and travel to them. Also if I am on tour and can’t find a premises to work from then I can get an apartment somewhere and using my equipment set up a mini dungeon. It increases my flexibility a bit more and makes kink more accessible. Although Its not something I am asked for too much because most people want to come visit me at my dungeon. It does allow me to be be a bit more creative though and makes me think a bit more dynamically and I like seeing the reactions from that. If people just always get what they have always just got then they are always going to give you the same reaction and so you will not get the surprises. I know some people like to play it safe and that’s ok but I like clients to leave there session with me and remember it and maybe think ‘that was a little different’ in a good way.

If you just want one thing in one particular way then you could really go and see anybody. What I want is clients that want to come back and see me and eventually earn themselves a tag and from there a collar.

What is the difference between a tag and a collar?

Well is a term I have coined myself, I felt that there was no in between from being owned to being collared and I thought there should be some sort of trial where you are almost collared but there are certain conditions before you are fully trusted with a collar or consideration collar. In a vanilla relationship you would meet someone, then you would date for a while and then eventually you would be looking to have a real proper commitment. I feel like tagging is the equivalent of vanilla dating, where you are still getting to know each other but you both know you want to be tied together to some degree.

  • Who would you most like to work with that you haven’t had the opportunity to do so yet, or who would you love to work with again?

There are some Mistress’s I have met from going to tea parties with Mistress Absolute who I haven’t had the opportunity to work with yet but would love to and one of them would be Mistress Darcy from New York. We got on really well, she has a sharp tongue and I like that so would really like to work with her. I have also met Ava Von Medisin and she was really lovely, and what a pair of legs she has for ball kicking so I think we could destroy some balls together.

Also Miss Scarlet letter, she is more of a strict aunty or motherly figure and I really like her style. Everything she does is always from a very good place and she has very good intentions. She wants to improve the life of subs and that’s something that is quite close to my heart so would like to work with her as well.

People that I have worked with and would definitely work with again, obviously Mistress Absolute, she is fantastic to work with. Mistress Lilith is so creative and comes up with the most ridiculous plans that always seem to work and I love working with her. Obviously Mistress Sarah Jessica is awesome, I really respect her and she’s an amazing sadist and another person who truly cares about her subs and it is nice to work with people like that. Mistress Miranda has the most incredible studio I have ever seen, its so well equipped and we got on very well so she would be another.

  • Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?

I think I have quite a good imagination so if someone tells me the sort of thing they enjoy then I can come up with something on the spot from that. I quite like to play games because it can make it more interesting and interactive for us both, although there are times when games are not appropriate. I like to think of the psychology as well as the physical side of things because if you can get into someones mind it’s a lot longer lasting and it builds trust and rapport. So from what they tell me I will usually come up with something on the spot, but I do have a few standard games I like to use, especially with newbies. I like to play a game called punishment bingo, where I will create a randomly numbered grid, one side will be repetitions or time periods and the other will be different punishments they think they would want to try, plus a few I will add. They will shout out numbers at random and they have to get a full house in order to win the game. There would normally be about 50 punishments in total and can get up to 30 in an hour. I have added a few twists and turns to it as well.

I can see how that would be very good at removing nerves and breaking the ice, especially with a newbie.

Yes, when they see me looking at the grid and bursting out laughing as they don’t know whats coming, it creates a bit of a connection and we have fun doing it.

  • What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?

It’s probably just the shopping ones!

Although I have read a few of Sarah Jessica’s blog and she writes beautifully so will have a read of that. But the shopping or advertising sites because they help me and allow me to buy things to make me better or try something new.

And its an excuse for shopping

Absolutely.

  • If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?

For a male sub it would be between Billy Connolly because I think he would be hilarious or Billy Bob Thornton because I remember reading all the sick shit he was into so he would be a fun sub. For my female sub, I’m not really sure, maybe Angelina Jolie because she is into some interesting stuff like knife play and blood so that would be fun.

  • What are some of you favourite things to do away from bdsm?

I like to read, I like to just hang out with friends and I like going climbing which also lets me keep in touch with geology. I also like to cook as it relaxes me. I know its still kink related but I have also got involved with sexpression to help spread awareness and get people talking about it, spread the kinky word and let people know we are actually quite sensible folk!

JD x x