Femdom Ball 2016

If you read this blog the chances are you are in some way into Femdom, and if you are into Femdom in some way then unless you have been hiding in a cave, in a box, with your fingers in your ears and a blindfold on for the last few months you were probably aware that the Femdom ball took place in London in October. Well I was very happy to be in attendance and just like last year I was there as a helper for the night so if you were not able to attend or you were there and want to re live a fantastic night, organised beautifully by the fabulous Madame Caramel then look on further and read on.

Before I go into any details about the night, I do want to say that in its second year the Femdom ball had a lot to live up to from last year but I do think that Madame Caramel managed to make this year ever better than last and the whole night was a huge success. A huge thank has to be said to Madame Caramel for all of that! So thank you!

So lets carry on with those details I mentioned before.

For me the vague planning for the ball started many months ago when Madame Caramel asked me if I would want to be a helper for the night again, I of course said yes and immediately assumed helper meant wine taster and all round standing around looking pretty (not quite true, although the standing around part was quite literal as Madame Caramel did keep telling me off throughout the night for sitting down at the tables).

The day itself started for me with an early train to London and as Natalie had kindly let me stay at hers again the plan was to head round hers then we would both head over to Madame Caramels to get ready and for me to try my dress on for the first time, luckily it fit! So (quite surprisingly for me) eveything went to plan and and I was in London, at Caramels, make up done and dressed with time to spare before heading to the ball.

All the helpers for the night were getting ready at Madame Caramel’s and we were all ready with time to spare so after a quick run though of what was planned for the night and which table we were to look after for the evening (Madame Caramel joked about me having to look after her tabel to make sure I behaved, although I can’t help but think there was some truth in that) we were all in a taxi and heading across to the venue. Me being me, I had not checked where the venue was so still had no real idea where we were going when we left in the taxi and getting in a taxi as Jess in daylight still fills me with nerves. It didn’t help that the taxi driving couldn’t find the main entrance to the courtyard and therefore dropped us off on a busy street and we had to walk the last 20m to the venue door. I know 20m doesnt sound like a lot but at the time it felt more like 20 miles on a busy street in the centre of London!

So we made it to the venue and were shown around by a very nice manager and wow what a venue it was. It’s hard to do the venue justice on here but it was spectacular, very fitting. You arrived into a courtyard and enterend the building to go up a large flight of stairs, through one more room and into the main room where the majority of the evening took place, and you could tell there was a lot of histroy in this room. Past this room was another large room which was the play room for the night (weirdly for me I hardly spent any time in there) and then past there through a secret door there was kind of the ‘back stage’ parts.

The start of the night involved walking the ladies to the main room and showing them their table for the night which I actually enjoyed as it was a great chance to say hello to some friendly faces I have seen in the past and to say hello to some I have only seen online never seen before. Omce everyone had arrived, the evening officially started with Vivienne L’Amour singing a few songs from the top balcony in the main door and sounding fantastic.

The whole night went very smoothly and it really was fantastic to meet some people I have wanted to for a long time and to be able to catch up with some people I hadn’t seen for a while. Of course spending a lot of the time with Natalie and this time Jessika was also a pleasure. As well as the meet and greets and catch ups happening throughout the evening there was the human raffle where each Domme had their slave as a ticket, a great performance from Mistress Amrita which was a combination of singing and rope work (one of my highlights of the night) and there was a fanstic fashion show HW Design which included a hell of a lot of incredible looking latex.

For me the night flew by and before I knew it was time to leave, by that time it was only my feet that were ready to call it a night but I ignored them for a few more hours and headed to the after party. So after a quick outfit change it was was in another taxi and heading over to the party. A few more drinks, a proporision in the toilets from some random guy which did not go down well with me, and a very enjoying spanking from Princess Aurora and slight caning from Mistress Brown and the night was over. By this time it was somewhere between 3 and 4am and my feet were very angry at me for ignoring them earlier. This time all of me was ready to call it a night, but what a night it was!

Bring on the Femdom Ball 2017, I for one can’t wait!

JD x x

House of Sinn -The Whip vs The Cane

Not too long ago I spent a Sunday in London filming with the incredible House of Sinn and what a Sunday it was. If you have read my blog before you might know that I have met all the people from House of Sinn a few times now and it is always a pleasure, I am a big big fan of both Mistress Ezada and Lady Yna and also very much enjoy catching up with everyone else involved.

This filming day I was filming with Mistress Ezada (for the first time so was very excited about that) and with Lady Mephista , for those of you that don’t know Lady Mephista is a stunning German Domme who loves her latex and rope bondage, and I can confirm is very good with a strap on as well as having legs that go on for ever! We actually did this filming the day after the Femdom ball and if anyone tells you I was out until 4am drinking wine the night before then they are lying…….maybe…..

One sure way of eliminating any tired feelings in the morning though is the promise of filming with two stunning dominant women! So I quickly got over the sleepy early start that may or may not have been due to me being out till 4am the night before.

I ended up doing 6 clips both with Mistress Ezada and Lady Mephista together, and some with just Lady Mephista. It was a real mix of clips and I really felt like I was put through my paces which doesnt always happen when filming. For me the day started quite slowly and easily (the calm before the storm) with Lady Yna helping me with my make up before shooting the first scene which was abit of boot worship with Lady Mephista and her beautiful boots. I am not going to go into a lot of details for all the clips, you can see what we got up to on the House of Sinn website when they are released, but I do want to talk about a few of them because they were intense! So as well as the boot worship clip we also did a spanking, two caning/whipping clips, a spit roast strap on and a bondage/strap on. It is fair to say I was physically and mentally exhausted after the last clip!

By far the most intense and most difficult clips that we did though were the caning and whipping clips. Now you might already know that I do have quite a bit of experience in the pain side of bdsm and it is actually something I enjoy, but this was a first. The idea of the clip was that Ezada likes the whip the most and Mephista likes the cane the most so they would both use them on me to show each other why they thought their implament was the better one. I am not hugely experienced with the whip and this hurt! It was very intense having cane, whip, cane, whip and the two deliver a very different feeling and a very different type of pain. I was at my pain limit by the end of the second clip and once the camera was off there were a few tears. I was smiling and crying at the same time, it is still slightly confusion for me as I am not used to all this crying, but I do know that it is hard to beat in terms of a feeling of release, at the time nothing else really matters and I love that.

Oh and for the record I prefer the cane to the whip so I am with Lady Mephista here, although I can confirm that they both bloody hurt!

After a bit of a break and a change of outfit we carried on with the filming with the strap on scenes. I am not going to go into lots of detail because you can see from the pictures what we did, so I will just stay it was very fun!

After filming these clips I was exhausted, a quick change and a bit of time to chill out before I headed off tried, in pain and happy. I can’t wait to film with the Hous if Sinn again soon!

JD x x

Happy Halloween

As it is halloween weekend I thought I would get into the spirit of things with some Halloween pictures.

Before you stop and say it, I know what you are thinking, this is actually just an excuse to use a Halloween addition to a picture editing app on my phone, well if thats what you were thinking then you would be right….

Anyway, Happy Halloween you filthy lot!

JD x x

Engish Mansion -A very Latexy Affair


I have been neglecting this blog in recent weeks and months and that is partly because lots of things have been happening in my personal life that I don’t want to talk about on here, I even considered stopping the blog for a while but the ‘good’ news is I have decided against that. The even better news is, I’m back with a post all about my recent trip to the best kink place I know of, aka The English Mansion, allow me to elaborate.

A few weeks ago I headed over to English Mansion to do a bit of filming with them for the first time about a year. I knew it was going to be a latex heavy filming day and I knew it would be Zara DuRose I would be filming with, so of course I was excited. Many of you will know just how good Zara looks in latex from her many pics and videos and its safe to say she looks even better in person, shes one of those people that it seems latex was just made for. I on the other head rarely get the chance to get fully suited and booted in latex but every time I do is a huge amount of fun, and this was not exception! As well as Zara being there, I was also looking forward to seeing a long term friend of mine Jade (@MissJadeJones) and seeing her do her thing on camera (pure filth, she makes me look very sweet and innocent!) and was very much looking forward to seeing Dominant Dolly and Mistress Sidonia, so you get the idea, I was excited!


In fact, I have been trying to think about how to get across just how much I enjoy being at the English Mansion. I have been lucky enough to to film with them a few times now and every time it is just a fantastic experience. Its not just about the filming as well, its everything from the time I arrive to getting out the hot tub at the day of the day and heading home. Actually, I think sometimes they must be close to kicking me out the door at the end of the day as I never want to leave. But at the risk of getting too soppy lets go back to the filming!

Zara had already filmed with Jade and with Dominant Dolly before we did our scene so I had had plenty of time to get ready or should I say I had plenty of time for others to help me get ready. The scene I did with Zara was great fun, as I mentioned before it involved lots of latex and as well as that there was bondage, caning, butt plugs, chastity, and me serving drinks in a more ‘challenging’ way than normal plus a little bit of boot worship. not a bad way to spend a sunny Thursday afternoon I am sure you would agree.

I am not going to go into all the details about what happened, The videos should be released later in the year on The English Mansion website so you can go see for yourself then. Plus the pictures here show a great little tease for the video, so stop being greedy and be patient haha.

One thing I will say though is that this was one of the few times I have done any form of predicament bondage and although it was quite mild compared to a lot of things I have seen before, it was a great introduction and something I would really like to do more of (Not that I would dream of hinting at all to you Mistress Sidonia if you are reading this….) It always feels good to be pushed in certain ways and I can see the appeal of being pushed with this for sure now.

After I finished my bit of filming Zara, Jade and Dominant Dolly did an incredibly hot scene together while I got to sit back and watch the action live with a front row seat. This was the first time I had seen Dominant Dolly in full Domme mode and I have to say wow she does look fantastic, and I am not jealous at all…..haha! Actually Dominant Dolly looked great, Zara looked great and Jade looked great. I cannot wait to see this clip when it gets released, very fucking hot (see what I did there), I recommend it to all!!

After the last scene and the day was done we finished off with a dip in the hot tub, the perfect way to end a great days filming

That just leaves me to say a  huge thank you to the English Mansion guys, to Zara Du Rose and to Jade, I had a great day as always and am looking forward to the next time I might be lucky enough to do it again

JD x x

Birmingham Weekend Part one – Party

Last week I was lucky enough to be invited to Birmingham with Vivienne and spend a few days there having fun and generally getting up to some good old fashioned filthy kink!

We were far from on our own as Esmerelda and Sammie were also there and we were having a kinky, anything goes type party in an apartment on the Friday night. A couple of people turned up for the party and I think it is safe to say everyone enjoyed themselves. Mistress Inka unfortunately arrived right near the end of the night due to traffic problems and the fact that Edinburgh is a long fucking way from Birmingham! Saying that I think she still got to have a bit of a play with Esmerelda and give her a few marks to remember her by. For someone as cute asEsmerelda, and trust me she very cute, that girl can take a hell of a lot of CP!!

So by 7pm ish everyone was dressed up and looking good, make up was (mostly) done, the wine was open and everyone was in the mood for play.

I personally got to give more than I took from a spanking side of things which I was more than happy with as I gave one of the crossdressers what turned out to be a lengthy spanking over the knee which was fun, but I have to say I don’t think anything I did was enough for him the cheeky girl always wanting more, they would not have got away with that with Vivienne haha. Still the spanking was fun and I am pretty sure she enjoyed it as well.

I also got to give Esmerelda a spanking/flogging and paddling which I have to admit I had been wanting to do all evening, or actually from the day before. That was a huge amount of fun doing an over the knee spanking,until she bit my leg for being apparently too mean, In fairness she did warn me but I didnt think she would actually do it, and I thought I could be bratty!!!

So what else did people get up to, well I don’t think I saw everything but I know Esmerelda had lots of fun with one of the guys, I played a bit with Sammie, or more accurately Sammie played with me, Viv and Sammi definitely had some fun together, plus a whole load of other things.

The night sort of natural wound down as these things tend to do and the guys went home leaving Vivienne, Mistress Inka, Esmerelda, Sammi and myself to chill out before another busy day the next day. It was to be a day of filming and never has a day of filming taken so much out of me emotionally and physically, but we will get to that in part two….

Knowone really took any pictures on the night which was a bit of a shame but I did (obviously) take some selfies once ready so this is the best I can often in terms of pictures of the party im afraid.

JD x x


Filming in the Sunshine at Cate Fury’s

The other week I headed over to Cate Fury’s to do some filming with herself Nikki Whiplash and Chloe Lovette. This was the first time I had been to Cate’s new place and I have to say I loved it. It feels like a beautiful little gem hidden away in the countryside, surrorunded the great outdoors. To be honest I couldn’t actually tell you where it was even if I wanted to, other than past a field of cows and over a cattle gird! Either way the trusty Sat Nav never fails and I arrived just before the first scene was about to start.

The filming was for Cate’s soon to be launched brand new clip store (keep an eye out for this!) and there where afew subs there on the day for filming to cover a wide range od different kinks. It was good to see Nadders again in the flesh and if you know who he is you should not be surprised that there was a few ball busting clips being filmed that day! As well as the ball busting there was some trampling, strap on and playing with a vac bed. I wasnt involved in them but still very much enjoyed wathcing them from the other side of the camera.

Once the first clip was finished Cate gave me a hand with my make up, and by gave me a hand, I do of course mean Cate pretty much did my make up and I have to say I thought it looked great. Once that was done and I was dressed (yes I was the last to be ready again) we headed outside to do the first of the two clips I was involved in on the day. This clip was a bit of a mix of things, there was a guy being human furniture, a guy being the ladies ash tray and I basically got to worship and kiss Cate’s boots, I personally thing I got the best job there! lots of fun.

The next clip being filmed was a ball busting clip so obviously I ran away and watched from the behind a wall in Cate’s garden. There is something fasinating about watching something that I know I couldn’t do or wouldn’t want to do, or a mixture of both. I have so much respect for the subs that do these it must hurt like hell! Saying that though you could clearly tell the guy getting kicked was enjoying it, it seemed that it was a case of the harder the kick the harder the.., well you know, the guy😉

The second clip I filmed was a caning clip, again we did it outside and after a bit of a warm up with a paddle ( I think ), all three took it in turns to give me a caning. I have never been caned by different people so close together and I was amazed when Cate told me that they used the same cane because each felt very different, I could have sworn they were different canes, he only thing in  common was that they all hurt!

After a little bit of a chill out, a chat and a cup of tea it was time to hit the road again with a glowing red bum after a really fun day spend at Cate Fury’s. Don’t forget to keep an eye out for Cate’s new clip store when it gets released and ofcourse go check out me being caned by three beautiful Dominant ladies!

JD x x

Interview with Mistress Inka

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My latest of my interviews with a Domme is with the Scottish beauty Mistress Inka. For those of you that don’t know, Mistress Inka is a Professional Domme based in Edinburgh with her own Dungeon playspace just minutes from the very heart of the city call Original Sin. Mistress Inka has years of experience and has interests in a wide varity of aspects of BDSM. Also did I mention that Scottish accent is to die for!

I hope you enoy the read

  • How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?

I first got into the world of kink through an ex partner, we would often hire submissive working girls to ‘play with’, in the beginning I was submissive to him, but quickly realised I should be at the other side of the whip.

  • How did you first get in being a Pro Domme, was it something that you always wanted to try, did it happen quite quickly after getting into kink?

I used to be an Art Lecture for 8 years, however, decided to take voluntary severance. I had already been doing pro Domme sessions now and again so it just seemed like the next step.

  • What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?

I firstly love the amount of freedom and creativity I experience, self employment suits me well, I feel in control, not just over men, but in my whole destiny, I can work hard and shape my own future, opportunity’s in further education after the credit crunch were minimal and very depressing.

  • What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?

Oh God! I have had so many shit jobs! I have always worked, learnt quickly you get nothing for free. One of the worst was working on a melon farm in Australia, the men used to take over ripped melons home for some good lovin’ at the end of there shift. since then I have done this to slaves ha ha! funny where you pick up tips.

  • How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?

Subs can contact me by email, miss.inka@icloud.com through my website, adult work, twitter….I am out there to be found.

  • What can a client expect from you in their first visit to see you?

A client can expect someone who actually cares about about their needs too, there is nothing worse for me feeling like the session has not gone to plan, I like a feeling of job satisfaction ha ha!

  • Other that real time how can a submissive serve you? Do you do webcam or phone domination?

I don’t do much online stuff, I much prefer to get my hands on them. However, plan to expand once my son becomes less needy, that might take a while since he’s male!

  • Are you looking for a personal sub?

    I have had/have personals, however, they are all pretty rubbish. I need a mute, rich, unemployed cleaning obsessive with gifted masseur hands and is a wiz with IT. Please apply.


  • What are the best qualities you look for in a sub? Is that different between a personal sub and one that books a session?

Be clean, bring a little something and shut the fuck up! then we are off to a good start.

  • What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?

I’m not a mind reader

I am not doing charity based work or free counselling service.

I’m not sitting about in full latex morning to night waiting for your call.

  • Do you have a different approach to male/female subs or crossdressers? Do you see female subs?

    I see everybody and everyone is treated the same, I am pretty equal when it comes to torture ha ha!

  • I know from personal eperience picking a name to use in the world of kink often has a story behind it, is there a reason behind the choice of the name Mistress Inka?

    I am named after an artist, I saw her name up in a gallery years ago and thought wow inka, what a cool name. her work is fab too, Inka Essenhigh. 

  • Living and working in Edinburgh but often travelling down to london, do you think the bdsm scene in Edinburgh/Scotland is a good one and do you think it differs from the one in London?

Its a small scene in Edinburgh, Glasgow has a much bigger scene, although Miss Marilyn and myself have been doing a good job bringing kink to the capital, we now have the only rentable dungeon that I know off in the city and for that reason we are now seeing some of the big names in FemDomme coming to wee Scotland.

It is hard for us to get work in London, everyone is a bloody Domme down there.

  • What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog

I have to say I love twitter, I enjoy watching, learning, admiring other ladies work. Some truly inspiring ladies and gents out there. Dirty bastards.

  • If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?

Alex from tess of the d’urbervilles, crispin glover and too many hot girls that would look good with mascara tears to choose!

  • What are some of you favourite things to do away from bdsm?

I love spending time with my son, eating and drinking fine food and wines, making art and lying around in the sun. bliss.

JD x x