That’s right all you lucky people, the interviews are back and back with a bang with this fantastic interview with Miss Petite. For those of you that don’t know Miss Petite is currently based in Thailand but from you UK and plans to move back soon, she offers both online webcam based sessions as well real time sessions. But that’s enough from me, Miss Petite explains all below.
Hope you enjoy the read
How did you first get into the world of kink, is it something that was always an interest?
Yes, I have always been very open-minded and experimental in regards to sex and kink in previous relationships and partners. I stumbled across webcamming one day when a girl I was kinda hooking up with told me about the website Adultwork. I have always been a bit of an exhibitionist too and a bit of a cock tease so thought what the heck let’s give this webcam thing a go. So that’s how it began, me teasing men on webcam, naturally leading to a more dominant persona on cam and learning more about BDSM as guys on cam were interested in having a ‘new girl’ dominate them. I learnt all the abbreviations and fetishes etc. through sessions with my online slaves and watching and reading as much as I could from Femdom pornography/twitter/books. I became more and more interested in the actual activities and learnt more about things I may have known about but not indulged in properly and the great thing is that I am still learning about kink and fetish everyday.
How did you first get in being a Pro Domme, was it something that you always wanted to try, did it happen quite quickly after getting into kink?
What is your favourite thing about being a pro Domme?
Money money money…. nah…(I wish!)
Definitely the confidence I have gained. The ability to be creative and explore new things/kinks/fetishes. The friends, relationships I’ve made and wonderful interesting people I have met and want to meet.
Oh and the clothes. I love the dressing up part, all the fetish gear! Getting to kick boys in the balls! And having boys lusting after me always.
As I answered in the previous question, I started out on webcam. My sessions naturally progressed to Femdom and Fetish and it got to a point where I felt it was time to get out from out of my computer and try doing these things I enjoyed on cam in Real Time sessions as a ‘proper’ Pro Domme. I had only played in private before and in particular with a friend of mine who was also a play slave, who I played with at home and sometimes I would use her on webcam.
So one day me and her, both into kink, decided to go along to our first fetish event to see if this was the kinda thing I could see myself doing. And of course it was! I met some great people who were very welcoming and I knew that starting real time sessions was next on my agenda and went on to seeing some boys who I had had endless sessions with on webcam, come serve me in my flat in all manners of ways! It probably took me about a year figuring myself out and ‘finding myself’ That sounds cheesy but it took about a year, for me to step out to real time sessions from webcamming.
What was your worst/best previous job before being a Domme?
I’ve never had a really bad job like cleaning toilets or wiping old people’s arses. My best was working in a fish and chip shop from the age of 14, not gunna’ lie, cos of all the free food and I was earning money, cash in hand while my mates were out making sprogs and getting drunk in the park. It was great cos I would work a few days after school then get the train up to Camden market every Sunday to spend my wages on clothes and food and just hang out in Camden.
So that was the best really. The only bad job really was when I worked in London, doing the job I had always wanted but feeling a bit meh about it in the end, the commute was insane, I had no social life and was in a boring as fuck relationship…Funnily enough I started webcamming only a few months after I ended that one and jacked that job in to do this full time.
How can a submissive contact you to arrange a session?
Fill out my application form on my contact page on my website www.misspetite.co.uk and follow me on twitter @miss_petite_ for all updates etc
What can a client expect from you in their first visit to see you?
Professionalism, creativity, no bullshit and I take no bullshit either. They will see I definitely live up to my name as I am indeed very small and get commented on that a lot, ‘Oh you ARE really small.’ They will see that I really enjoy what I do and am always up for a laugh (loooove humiliation sessions) and like to have fun in my sessions.
I know you do a mixture of webcam and realtime session, do you enjoy both of them equally and where can people find you on webcam?
Do you have your own personal website or websites? Which other social media sites do you like to use?
You can find me on webcam on a few websites, Adultwork, Saucytime, Babestationscams, all links to my profiles on my website, www.misspetite.co.uk
I love both cam and real time. I prefer real time though, I have to admit as it can be hard sometimes to really get into a session on cam when you really wanna squeeze the boy’s balls on the screen in front of you. It can be frustrating and you do have to put up with a lot of guys not understanding BDSM on cam. But I do have some boys I session with regularly that I really enjoy sessioning with and have a great connection with, and I would no doubt session with if I was in the UK. I like to play games on cam to keep things interesting which makes it very fun and I understand that there are some guys out there who would never have the guts to have a real time sesh so a cam sesh is a great escape for them to live some fantasies they have and some are best left on a webcam chat room! haha
But yes I do get that amazing buzz more after a good real time session. I actually had one guy before session with me loads on cam turn up for a real time session and had to call the session short after fifteen minutes as he was too nervous to go through with it as he felt he was cheating on his girlfriend doing it in person rather than on cam. I turned from Domme to counsellor in that short time sending him on his way with some advice to maybe tell his girlfriend that he was into nipple torture amongst other things. He came back on cam for a while after stil to sesison and apologise over and over but havent seen him for over a year now. So it shows that webcam and real time cater to all types.
- I only use twitter @miss_petite_
- I used to have snapchat but got bored
- I have Fetlife too MissPetite
Are you looking for a personal sub?
Nope, I get asked this a lot and when I am back in the UK I might find myself an in house sissy/ forced bi boy and maybe a domestic boy, but I’m so fussy and house-proud so will have to make sure that lucky maid is of my standards, running around doing errands and cleaning etc. I also keep getting ridiculous requests of late from subs wanting to be in my place 24 hours a day. I’m sorry but I would like to eat, sleep and poop in my own company and have some normalcy and privacy outside of kink with my boyfriend and friends. I barely get any time away from the endless email, phone calls, messages anyway. Maybe if I get a cage for them to sleep in, I may allow sleepovers with boys, maybe a cuck bitch as me and my partner both enjoy that kink.
Do you have a favourite piece of equipment/favourite toy?
What is your favourite fetish outfit to wear?
Whatever I feel comfortable in that day, I love latex and have a nice little collection now but am restricted in wearing it as very very hot here, too hot to wear sometimes. Otherwise I like wearing as little as possible, just a nice bra and panties or I have a lot of very revealing fishnet mini dresses which look hot and are comfy too.
Anything fishnet really and black. I love super shiny leggings too as my arse looks great in a pair!
Actually, the most fun sessions I have are when I have nothing or am somewhere where I have to use what is around me or if it is on cam, what I can see in their room in the background. I get to be most creative then and actually haven’t sessioned much from an actual dungeon especially being here in BKK, I have only recently found a safe dungeon to session from. It is hard to get equipment here and I didn’t bring much with me so I got crafty and made floggers myself out of Para cord which leave a nice sting.
I like a good collar and leash, and a trip around the hardwear/homeware sections in shops here are where the good stuff is. Simple things like ropes, clothes pegs, a cheese grater can be fun! Haha
What is your favourite type of play during a session, or favourite activities? Both for realtime and webcam if different?
I really like twisted humiliation things, things I might only think of during the session as I am going with the flow. I try not to plan my RT sessions too much, obviously, respecting hard limits though. I do love cbt on webcam and I am obsessed with forced bi and making guys suck each others willies! I love ball busting, it’s all about the slapping and in-pain yelps from the subs for me. That’s why on webcam I insist I can hear them whilst they are inflicting pain on their dangly bits with my instructions. I can also be quite immature in my humiliation sessions, so the swirlie is a fav of mine. Human ashtray, ok there’s loads I like can’t think of one. Full on sissy makeovers are great fun. There are some things though on webcam I would never do in person so I get to indulge in a bit of fantasy chat there, like castration and hard sports (never say never though on that one lol)
What are the best qualities you look for in a sub? Is that different between a personal sub and one that books a session?
I don’t have any personal subs, but for any sub serving me or hoping to, it would be the obvious, they would need manners, respect, honesty, reliability, willingness and to respect my boundaries.
If you could give one piece of advice to a sub what would it be?
Don’t be a needy sub. I don’t want to be pestered by you. If I want you for something I will tell you. And don’t waste my time/let me down, be honest if you can’t make a session/chicken out. I’m very stubborn and don’t give out second chances. They must also understand that I have a real life outside of this too and am not available to do what they wish/charge what they want 24 hours a day at 5 mins notice/reply to a message. And don’t ask too many questions about my personal life. I had a RT boy recently who went out of his way to befriend a friend of mine who then arranged to go out for drinks with and kept asking if me and my boyfriend would like to come out for drinks all the time. Safe to say he’s no longer serving me…block!
What are the top 3 mistakes you find a sub makes with you?
Do you have a different approach to male/female subs or crossdressers? Do you see female subs?
I do a lot of online work more where I am based so no 1 is simply not taking note of my profile and what I do. If they are new but have no idea what they are even remotely interested in, that can be irritating. Do some research at least rather than come in my webcam room and type ‘dominate me’
Same goes for those new to real time, ‘I’m new, what would you suggest for a beginner…?’ Erm…. Ballbusting… you need to have a bit of an idea as to what you are interested in and paying for I might add!
Oh also, ‘I will do anything, Mistress.’ Okay, so you have any hard limits? ‘No, anything.’ Okay, then shit your pants and eat it….. ‘eww no, not that!!’ So you won’t do anything then?!
‘Your too cute to be a Femdom’ (happens rarely but some think there’s just a cliché look dominatrixes should have and that’s simply not true. Everyone has their
individual and unique style which is what I love about Femdom and they have what works for them. I actually use my ‘cuteness’ to get what I want even more anyway .
I actually started out Domming my female friend. I don’t get female subs emailing for real time sessions but I hope to do sessions/filming in the future with more female subs and maybe dare I say it and shock you but I would be interested in subbing to a Mistress I really admire. There are a few I am in awe of and would like to experience it from the other side properly. Its weird though as I don’t get off or excited about the thought of subbing in a proper BDSM scene/dungeon to a male Master but to a confident Mistress who is powerful and is very sensual then the idea sounds hot. Would like to experience that, though not humiliation. Personally my taste for Girl on Girl Domination sessions are more sensual, some pain but I don’t like to humiliation or verbally abusing the girl which I see more of in Male/Fem scenes, which is not to my taste. Though when I dominate men in my sessions I am all for humiliating the fuck out of them! Crossdressers in my sessions I will use and abuse the same way I will with my non crossdressing subs, though some become more those you can have a good chat with and I like a ‘sub’ crossdresser who has a deviant side and wants to dominate a bit so we can team up and abuse the boys together! That’s fun.
I have seen you have been called ‘The Goddess of games’ because of your creativity and the games you plan on webcam, what sort of thing does this involve,
You are based in Thailand at the moment, what is the kink scene like there?
could you give an quick run through of a favourite of your?
It all started because I love giving out tasks to my boys on cam and making them perform for me. I had a list I used to write down of ideas of painful and humiliating tasks for them but the list just grew and grew and one day I got the idea to make them into a game, which became Humiliation Roulette. Later came pain Roulette, Wanker’s Roulette and Findom roulette. I even had a Wheel of Torment which was a huge spinning wheel of tasks, a cum tax game and I used to have a Femdomopoly game I would play on cam. Am always coming up with new ones and updating them.
Humiliation Roulette is basically 100 I think now tasks, ranging from CEI to mild CBT (Pain Roulette for the hardcode Pain Sluts) Sissification (Oh there’s Sissy Commandments too now! So many games) to Watersports, branding and just basically nasty degrading tasks, some more extreme than others. With over 100 tasks there’s a lot of scope for creativity and variation. When a boy wants to play he must have his webcam working so I can see him and he picks a number from 1-00 say for HR, I show him the task and he then has the option to play or pass that task. Some tasks might be a hard limit, which is why this game is good to get to know new boys and how willing they are and all about them, they might pass as they don’t have that item in their vicinity or they just don’t wanna do it, but they only get 3 passes and after they have used them all up, the have to complete the next tasks card no matter how bad it is. The other Roulette games work in the same way, the Pain Roulette one is mostly CBT and spankings & nipple torture with different object/number of slap, spankings etc. Findom Roulette is obvs Financial tasks so wishlist clearing, tipping certain amounts. My Wankers Roulette is very popular too which is a wanking orgasm control game, lots of stopping, starting, and tease and denial. These games just make webcam sessions for me and the subs more fun and interesting. I get to use my creativity. Pain Roulette is definitely my favourite though.
Do you plan on returning to the UK any time?
There is a tiny kink scene. I have attended some of their fetish parties but there weren’t enough male subs there for me, lots of male masters and female subs and it is lifestylers who I got a sense from and it was brought up too in their group chats a few times, that they weren’t keen on Pro Dommes who charge for their time (typical) so I kinda keep myself to myself and don’t have much to do with them now. It is very underground here, despite that kink group and I have to say some of them are very talented in their skills in terms of needle play and caning, but that’s the only kink group that I am aware of that I have found. It’s very different here as lots of things here are only for the sexpats and aren’t genuine. There a couple BDSM/Fetish clubs which I have not been to but have had mixed reviews from my friends and subs. A lot of fetish bars here are just about getting your money and buying ‘lady drinks.’
Bangkok is a man’s Disneyland as I always say so they can pretty much have and pay for whatever they want so the lines get blurred (as I experience daily from what guys here expect of me for a RT session in contacting me) between Femdom and escorting. I am planning my return to the Uk and hope to be back next year. The lack of ‘scene is definitely one reason for it. There’s not enough for me to grow here a as Femdom in my career, and can be very lonely being as far as I am aware the only British Domme here. There is also no where to buy equipment, toys (unless you want a vibrating strap on Made In China that might blow up inside you, bought from the naughty night markets!)
Who would you most like to work with that you haven’t had the opportunity to do so yet, or who would you love to work with again?
There’s loads of people. What some people don’t know is that I only actually did about 4 months of RT before I packed up and took up the opportunity that came up to come here to Thailand so when I am back there are lots of Mistresses I admire that I would love to arrange to work with if possible. There are also activities I don’t have experience in that I want to try so will seek advice and training in those areas too such as Needle Play, Rope work and Estim. I was lucky enough since being here able to meet up with Goddess Anastaxia (who’s coming here again this week) and Princess Almighty that I would love to meet again. I actually met up with a lot of other adult ind girls since being here which is crazy actually not all Dommes but, met up had drinks with Ava Austen, Nikki Flux, Yuffie Yulan who were here on holiday. It really helps to talk to others in the same industry so you can have a good old bitch and moan and share advice. I do more webcam work here which can be lonely so looking forward to being able to have more opportunities to meet others in the industry when I am back in the UK. I also have my WhatsApp group of girls in my Vegan Filth Club who help me get through days a lot which helps and will definitely will be organising a meet up with all for them when I am back (Miss Delores, Miss Louise Kay, Fetish Beauvoir and Sultry Olivia)
Do you use music for sessions, if so what sort of music do you like to have for session?
Where do you get your inspiration for sessions?
I really have no idea, I literally just lie in bed trying to get to sleep and I am coming up with new ideas and Femdom fantasies in my head. Its dangerous. I have always been creative with my background and so my imagination just runs world. I am obviously inspired by other amazing Femdoms I see on Twitter etc. that I see do things and I think, wow I wanna try that. Most of the time, I just go with the flow and surprise myself a lot by some of the things I come up with, especially in regards to humiliation. I get new ideas as I am talking to subs online and if I had more time I would love to write erotic Femdom Fiction about those scenarios in my head.
Yes I love having music on in my sessions and it really varies, I have quite an eclectic taste. Most might have seen the cheese range of music I like to use for my dick dancing sessions on cam to all kinds of songs like Madonna and Britney spears. I do like a bit of Elvis shake rattle and roll whilst I have a sub covered in in clothes pegs and nipple clamps shake around like crazy with them all pinching him as he shimmies, very fun to sit with my feet up and watch. But general kinda music in the background; I enjoy Rage against the Machine, classical kinda chill out. I like Grimes, Massive Attack, NOFX, Some aggressive heavy Punk or Metal, Metallica, Marilyn Manson but then sometimes I will fancy a bit of funky house kinda stuff, so totally dependant on my mood, the type of session.
What is your favourite BDSM or Kink website/blog?
I don’t really have one, I guess twitter is a great way to connect with other kinksters, and I read blogs from other Dommes linked from there. I recently read some really good blog entries from Miss Marilyn, Nikki Whiplash and Mistress Evilyne which were spot on with the kind of BTS of being a Femdom and I could relate to them so Twitter is great for connecting. In terms of proper kink kinda websites, I use Fetlife sometimes, I recently also started listening to Secret Radio, a kinky radio station which is really good and would like to listen to more but cos of the time difference, I miss it live a lot but catch up on their playlist.
If you could have one male and one female Celeb to be your sub for the day who would they be?
This took me a while to think about as even when I’m asked what male/female celebs do you fancy, I have different taste from the norm I think and go for guys that are sometimes, ugly sexy. I mean I never like brad Pitt until he got old and grey. Plus I love a dad bod and facial hair (not a full on beard). I am to be totally obsessed with Ray Liotta and Joaquin Phoenix but I wanna just wanna fuck, them not dominate them in a session. So I had a long old think and male to sub, I would say Fat Mike from NOFX as he is actually sub to his wife who is a Pro Domme and they have a dungeon in LA and I have seen him in interviews before and love his blasé approach to crossdressing, so cool and laid back about which is great to here out in the vanilla world, plus he’s funny as fuck so would be a fun session. His dungeon in LA is what inspired my current camroom backdrop of old 70s punk posters. Female…hmm, I’m trying to think of hot cute girls and I’m thinking of that girl from Twilight Kirsten Stewart but only cos I wanna slap a mile on her face. Okay, just thought…any of the girls from Little Mix. Would love to tie them up and grope and spank them! (perve!)
What are some of you favourite things to do away from bdsm?
Sleep, if I get the chance. I like to get out the house and just walk around a park or take a picnic. Alone time (away from my computer perverts) is so important to me so I like to go on little adventure on my own or sometimes with friends but that’s sometimes hard as our schedules are all different and they don’t really get what I do. Obviously in Thailand right now, I like exploring the city. I am also really into organising and do creative stuff so always have a project going whether it being customising some jeans, making homemade beauty products or buying new foods I haven’t tried to cook with.
JD x x